"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it really bad?

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Is it really bad to have pauses of slilence in converations? The question is as simple as that really...
Does it give a bad impression?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i would say depends if ur person to person or ova da phone. i was just on da phone with a girl i really like and we weren't talken and i was readen this and laughin and she hung up
but person to person i would say it wouldn't hurt to stop talken for a minute or so that is just me.
 
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Originally posted by Stinky Booky
i would say depends if ur person to person or ova da phone. i was just on da phone with a girl i really like and we weren't talken and i was readen this and laughin and she hung up
but person to person i would say it wouldn't hurt to stop talken for a minute or so that is just me.
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yeah i meant person 2 person
 
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If you're a funny guy you can make them work to your advantage (Conan O'Brien, The Office, etc.) But I think over the phone they are never good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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During a silent moment, I usually ask, "What's on your mind?" Great way to restart the conversation and effectively diverts the "blame" of the silent moment away from you.
 
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