Is it possible to stay in the honeymoon phase forever?

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Say with your girlfriend/wife. Is it possible or no? If it’s not, what’s the longest you can make it last for?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I've heard 5 years is doable. For me it's 3-6 months.

With my ex the sex got better every time for seven years. Then she decided to follow her single friends cause she thought she was missing out.

 

[BeExcellent]

A wise old man in his 80s who was happily married for 60+ years once said to me:

"Marriage is easy. Keep repeating the first 90 days over and over."

He and his wife were super cute over each other even as great grandparents. Rather profound if you think about it.

 

[byers90]

The honeymoon period of course will not last forever - that is when the true nature of the relationship will reveal itself and whether it can stand the test of time. Each person shows who they "truly" are...this is where it pays for your "inner game" to be up to snuff. Your personality is far more important than looks in the long run.

Although I will add there is no reason to lose the fire as time goes on. We talk about how the honeymoon period ends but many people get into routines and change. If you maintain some of the traits that initially attracted the woman to you in the first place it will only help you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If your in a LTR you must keep your attraction up. You must remain somewhat social. You must date your spouse. And you must stay intimate. You can keep it going for a long time.

 

[BeExcellent]

The key is that the relationship is not primarily based around sexuality IMO. Sexuality is amoral.

Agreed. Although the sexual Union is extremely important. It is sacred and creates deep physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy. It is shared with only the spouse. And the infatuation morphs into real love over time. Real love is sacrificial in nature and places "other" above self. When you have two people placing one another above themselves amazing things happen.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Agreed. Although the sexual Union is extremely important. It is sacred and creates deep physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy. It is shared with only the spouse. And the infatuation morphs into real love over time. Real love is sacrificial in nature and places "other" above self. When you have two people placing one another above themselves amazing things happen.

Often feelings follow actions.

 

[Julian]

i believe in true forever love absolutely. i also believe peoples primal instincts are very hard to fight and in the right situation people will do bad things like cheat on their lifelong love. u want the honeymoon to last forever? that wont happen because women want progression in the relationship, i swear some of these bitches cant wait to flip the script an turn into a royal kunt once she has you.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Agreed. Although the sexual Union is extremely important. It is sacred and creates deep physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy. It is shared with only the spouse. And the infatuation morphs into real love over time. Real love is sacrificial in nature and places "other" above self. When you have two people placing one another above themselves amazing things happen.

Well said and agreed. Too bad only a fraction (<5% of all "couples" maybe?) actually practice this. Now, it's QUANTITY over quality due to "choices" for both sexes.

 

[BeExcellent]

Well said and agreed. Too bad only a fraction (<5% of all "couples" maybe?) actually practice this. Now, it's QUANTITY over quality due to "choices" for both sexes.

I know everybody here thinks I'm a total Pollyanna at times but I actually see this a high percentage of the time 80% or higher among married couples I know well personally. Most are traditional, conservative and actively religious, but not all. I see very few shjtty marriages in my social circles. Not none, but very very few. And over a wide age range from the early 20s to the 80s. Of course I'm not in NYC or LA or Miami either, but I know joyfully married couples in big metros as well as in rural small towns.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If your in a LTR you must keep your attraction up. You must remain somewhat social. You must date your spouse. And you must stay intimate. You can keep it going for a long time.

Alot of the stuff on this site dealing wit

"honeymoon phase" is just the pair bonding period between a man and a woman to procreate.

its just brain drugs

Yes it is. And you can keep those "drugs" flowing if you take care of the relationship.

 

[wifehunter]

I always thought the moon was made of cheese, not honey.

Anyway...When I'm in buku bucks, I plan to have a perpetual 'honey moon'.

So, I'll let you know.