Is it possible to have too many rejections?

[alx]

Just feel like another couple of rejections would push me over the edge at this point.

 

[Serenity]

Yeah I think so, but most things in life are temporary. You'll get tired of it, quit trying, then you'll feel better and go at it again.

I think many guys especially on here fall into the trap of thinking they have to keep going or give up forever. I sure felt that way at some points, but realized it's not permanent. It's ok to give up, maybe even healthy. You could always get back to it for another try later when you've recharged.

I think it's wise to take a break from trying to get women if you're failing and it's wearing you out. The negativity that comes from continuing to be rejected will only hurt your chances. If you take a break from women and spend the time doing whatever makes you happy to boost your mood, then that by itself may be enough to end a long streak of rejections.

 

[Spaz]

Continuous success or continous rejection boils down to which mind frame you adhere to.

The mind frame always influences the way you do things and that ultimately yields the results you see not only in women but in almost all aspects of your life.

 

[alx]

Anyone done an audio book version of the bible? Would be good to listen to it at work.


Also want to know why guys find out I'm single then push me to go chat up girls?

 

[Glassguy]

Every man is different. Some guys handle rejection very poorly. One flake or turn down and they fold up like a baby and cry about it for days.

With others, they understand that rejection is just part of it. Even the hall of fame NBA players missed plenty of shots but they knew they couldnt score unless they kept shooting. Sometimes you have a cold run and other times you are unconscious and cant miss.

Understanding that rejection is part of it lessens the aftermath of the rejection itself.

What also helps is this: Understanding women's choosing signals and IOI's. You can limit the amount of rejection from women if you simply understand how to identify the ones that are into you and the ones that arent well before you ever make a move.

So hang in there. We all get rejected. Hell I just got ghosted 3 days ago. Who the fvck cares. Want to know what I did? I got 3 numbers between Tuesday and last night and scheduled 3 dates for this weekend and Monday. Thats what I did. If old Casper the Ghost pops her head back into my life in a few days or weeks, SHE will be on the other end of rejection if she doesnt agree to my simple terms which will be "if you are ready to come over and get naked, I am all for it. If not, I dont see anything between us and we should just be friends".

That is how you do it my man.

 

[Serenity]

Anyone done an audio book version of the bible? Would be good to listen to it at work.

I would be surprised if nobody had made that, most likely there's multiple by different voices.

Also want to know why guys find out I'm single then push me to go chat up girls?

They mean good, but pressuring isn't always the best thing to do and too few understand that.

 

[guru1000]

Here’s the thing about rejection:

Genuine (as opposed to contrived) Confidence is built by a track record of success.

Every “win” adds to your present confidence level.

Every “lose” detracts from your confidence level.

When you have enough wins under your belt, intermittent “losses” become trivial.

The goal is to minimize your losses and maximize your wins for genuine confidence to manifest.

Hence the platitude, “Spin plates.”

The irony is the more wins you accumulate—inciting the IDGAF confident state—the more future wins become likely and easily accessible. And contrariwise.

If you’re finding your losses to be greater than your wins, then you need to take a step back and create distance from your present thinking. Reflect. Analyze. Learn. Then get back into the game with small base hits until a track record (and hence confidence) develops.

When you reach the epitome of confidence, you rarely need to use words—nor do words hold great meaning. All that needs to be stated will be apparent in your body language, which is simply the Intrinsic language (sub-communications) of your past conquests.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

You never lose. You win or you learn.

 

[alx]

Thanks. On reflection it's not even the rejections that are the problem its the frustration that comes from a dry spell. It's hard to come across as a happy well-laid guy when you haven't seen any action in months.

I think the offer I'm putting on the table for these women is a good offer I'm frankly puzzled by the lack of response.

I put it down to the fact they can tell I'm frustrated but it's a catch 22.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Just feel like another couple of rejections would push me over the edge at this point.

This soubds like the confession of the weirdo that rented a mini van and went gta on the world.

For starters, get your testosterone checked. Secondly, if you are getting baeeees, all you should care for is feminine as ****kkk, dtf, submissive and on top form SMV or #nextSet!

I have been doing pickup for over a decade. Do you have any idea what is going on? Forget rejections. Do you know how fat these girls will get in a few years? Her best years is over 2-3yrs. Top form is what, 18-23? On average. Not to say, you wont smash. Just she's not as tight, thin, attractive thereafter.

Game will aware you that new girls are turning 18 everyday. Running into women from the past is like watching a throw back comedy special. Its hilarious. Bitches be bulking season, fat as ****kkk, bastard children diff baby daddy, and she us virtually unrecognisable.

Game = compliance

I lead. She follows or #nextSet

 

[flowtheory]

Thanks. On reflection it's not even the rejections that are the problem its the frustration that comes from a dry spell. It's hard to come across as a happy well-laid guy when you haven't seen any action in months.

I think the offer I'm putting on the table for these women is a good offer I'm frankly puzzled by the lack of response.

I put it down to the fact they can tell I'm frustrated but it's a catch 22.

You’re in a scarcity mindset and women pick up on that. You’re not carrying yourself with strength.

They can tell you’re frustrated because that’s what you’re projecting and communicating to yourself.
Relax a bit, and reframe your interactions with women. Don’t be attached to outcome. Focus on simply enjoying yourself. I wouldn’t be surprised if you removed the sexual aspect that you may just in fact become sexual with these women.

Women are attracted to someone who has value. This also begins with a man who values themselves.

Rejection is surely exhausting if that’s all you’re feeling. But if you’re in the depths of only experiencing rejection, take a step back, recalibrate and then take another run at putting yourself out there with a reframed sense of self.

 

[zekko]

Just feel like another couple of rejections would push me over the edge at this point.

I've never learned to like rejections. I understand in my brain that they don't matter and that it's a numbers game, but they still always bug me.
But with regard to being pushed over the edge, I think it's important that you have some successes to mix in with the rejections. If all you have are rejections, that's when guys start to flip out.

 

[MatureDJ]

The main problem with rejection is that it sends a bad signal to future targets - if that girl turned him down, he must be a loser, etc. Men intuitively understand this, and therefore are careful about putting it out there in close company. This is why OLD is such a sausage fest, since no one knows about any rejection - to way nothing about the fact that rejection can be done by simply ghosting.

 

[RedZone]

Just feel like another couple of rejections would push me over the edge at this point.

Personally, I don't think so. People are more resilient than you think. So you get rejected. Big deal. Hurts for what? Like 20 seconds. I guess it's a little worse the better you know the person but usually when rejected the person barely knows you. They are rejecting one part of you. They don't know what really makes you tick or what awesome **** you do in your spare time. Plus, theres a million reasons why someone says no. Maybe they are seeing someone. Maybe they hate the way you dress. Hell maybe they hate the where you place your commas. Point is this. You could fold up or you can keep going. Keep going. Don't let someone who barely know stop you from finding the right person.

 

[corrector]

Thanks. On reflection it's not even the rejections that are the problem its the frustration that comes from a dry spell. It's hard to come across as a happy well-laid guy when you haven't seen any action in months.

I think the offer I'm putting on the table for these women is a good offer I'm frankly puzzled by the lack of response.

I put it down to the fact they can tell I'm frustrated but it's a catch 22.

How do you rate yourself on the looks-scale? You are saying that you can only carry a happy vibe if you get action. If you had action before then why didn't you get another girl to keep up the momentum? You did get social proofed since you did technically get action. What type of guys are these girls going for if they are not selecting you?

 

[Trump]

Just feel like another couple of rejections would push me over the edge at this point.

Pedalize much?

Change your look, change your body, change your thinking, not for women, for yourself. Women will come as a result of other things you do that have value in society.

 

[touma.akagi]

I suppose you can go the tinder route if you really want a change of pace. But by "tinder route" I might even suggest you find something that's... not Tinder. I tried Tinder and the app itself made my phone do weird things, the app didn't let me do jack **** a lot of the time due to the paywalls that wanted me so badly to buy Tinder Gold. And some girls will take you to talk to you on Instagram or Facebook and then ask you for money. Before long you figure out that those women have zero intention of meeting up with guys. I uninstalled it and didn't use it again.

I myself went through an utter dry spell the past couple months. Girls I met in person just declined to meet or wouldn't respond to messages, so I quit texting them and found someone else. And the cycle goes on. Just keep going and you'll find someone or someone will find you, either in person or online.

 

[In2theGame]

Just feel like another couple of rejections would push me over the edge at this point.

What do your rejections look like?

 

[yuppaz]

I think if you go out to improve what you are doing and not to hook up with the girl you won't be getting rejected but will learn enough that rejections stop happening. Be outcome independent.

 

[Mike32ct]

There’s no “limit” on rejections.

Get as many rejections as you need to succeed.