ok lazikia, i can somewhat connect with u that u probably have a wrong notion about what an alpha male is. just remember what u r supposed to be... A Man! its not going down on someone makes u a MAN but rising upto ur best level is what makes a MAN. it is absolutely false if tehy say taht u have to lead, u have to be dominant, u have to the ONE, i say something alphas can be many. its how u accept ur masculine nature. go the caveman way, dude! its all about the status, if u think u can have a higher or equal status with the alphas, then be it. just be the MAN and accept what u r supposed to do and act like! thats it. and just to say something, we are all alphas, unless we discover our true potential, even i was a beta and i was in fact afraid of acting like a man in front of others, mainly the opposite sex, now i have got what it means to be a MAN and i just accept it... it is the way it is!