I been dating this single mother of three for 2 months but lately she seems distant. She used to text and call me all the time but now I'm lucky if I hear from her once a day. Last week I asked her if everything was okay and she said it was. This past week when we talk on the phone it's like we'll talk for a couple of minutes then she ends it. She says she'll call me back but it's not until the next day........I've kept my composure and I haven't chased her. I understand if she's lost interest I mean we barely see each other but, if that's the case why not tell me? My question is do you think it's over? I think the answer is fairly obvious I just wanted some feedback
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is it over?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
CuddleJunkie
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Your question is "why does she keep the relationship alive if she has lost interest?"
The answer is: she has yet to find a better deal, the moment she does, she will end things up. You better do it before she does, it will be healthier for you. Use the NC thread if needed.
The answer is: she has yet to find a better deal, the moment she does, she will end things up. You better do it before she does, it will be healthier for you. Use the NC thread if needed.
She won't tell you she has lost interest because they just don't do that. She wont be honest with her feelings until she is with the next guy and even then she will lie to you because it is what women do. She will branch swing to the next guy then blame everything on you.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
grayclif
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If you are asking this question then everything is not okay.
dustmuffin
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Dump her now......In my last relationship I could tell things were off but couldnt put my finger on it. Wouldn't respond in a timely manner. Wouldnt sit close to me like she always had. Became a bit bitchy. She dumped me eventually. It didn't feel good.
What is best for you is to kick her to the curb and move on. I wish I would have done that.
What is best for you is to kick her to the curb and move on. I wish I would have done that.
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Just echoing the other DJs here...start up your plate spinning engine, Respek777. Distancing, less and less contact, low IL, confusion, all of that leads to her following her female imperative to find the next branch to jump to.
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Question that needs to be asked...did you Fvck her?
As always, the most important piece of information is left out with these...
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taiyuu_otoko
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Not quite, but it's in the final stages. She's probably in the "I hope he takes the hint" stage.
Back burner this one and focus on other girls. If she comes back on her own, she comes back. Otherwise it's done.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Not to mention when they are "confused" and getting ready to branch swing, her friends will all be convincing her to jump on the next guy.
When their behaviour noticeably changes and you have to ask, it's never good.
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Its a sign she's moving to another male.
Marmel is spot on! The first question is: "did you **** her"?
If not... than you beta-ed yourself. She's working to get you but you did ****. So she moves on
If yes, than she found a better candidate for provider status.
Read DjBible to improve your theory knowlege.
And like the other posters said: get more dates, more girls
Marmel is spot on! The first question is: "did you **** her"?
If not... than you beta-ed yourself. She's working to get you but you did ****. So she moves on
If yes, than she found a better candidate for provider status.
Read DjBible to improve your theory knowlege.
And like the other posters said: get more dates, more girls
It's evident from what you wrote that you spent way too much time with her. In two months you should be only seeing someone max eight times. Once a week is enough to give to any one woman (at the beginning it can naturally increase later WHEN you have a relationship) Just from what you're saying "she used to call me all the time but now I'm lucky if I hear from her once a day"......firstly how can you say what someone used to do....in the span of two months. And secondly, you consider yourself "lucky" to hear from her once a day. Lucky?
Sometimes you must look at possible cause and effect, and in this case you can surmise that you spend way too much time with her and the effect has been to lose interest in you. When you give them the kitchen sink from the beginning, they lose respect for you and TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED.
Why doesn't she just finish it? What does a cat do with a mouse before she kills it?
She toys with it
Love the cat analogy. Yes I ****ed her. I met her through a coworker. I actually enjoyed her company outside of the bedroom. That's what drew me in. So I threw caution to the wind. I remember thinking to myself she can't be like ALL the other single mother's out there................ womp womp
Little brother consider yourself lucky. I've been in this exact situation. Unfortunately I stayed for 3.5 years. I was that "white night nice guy".
It turns my stomache to even think about it.
Single mothers are notorious branch swingers, using their vaginas like a Venus fly trap. They want your money, time, support, and a baby daddy.
By your post, you are the perfect prey for them. Super nice, always available to talk for hours on the phone, and easy to create a sense of self doubt in.
Don't be steered wrong here. Sex is never an important factor with a single mother as they will spread their legs to any and all potential suitors.
All right........I gotta stop writing about this as I think I just threw up in my mouth!
Run away!!!!!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Firestar786
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Run away bro
I was about to say the same thing. Single mothers all have one thing in mind, marriage. If you dating her she'll stick by you until the next best thing shows up then she casts you aside. She won't dump you until she knows the other guy is a sure thing, if it doesn't work she'll fall back to you. Don't waste your time trying to figure out what's wrong when you already seeing the relationship going downhill otherwise you'll end up being the guy she "settles down for" after she gave up on her other options.