"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is it okay to never really make a move?

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Brules Rules

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I don't mean like ever, but to just go with the flow, and not be aggressive? None of that kino ****. No verbalizations of your "desires". Just being a girls "friend" until THEY make a move.

It seems like I only get ass by behaving like that, and the harder I make it for them, the better. If I try flirting, or invite them back to my house, or merely touch them, they repell in disgust or treat me like a little kid, even if they've been flirting with me all night. If I just sit there and talk to them, and be nice to them (maybe even come across as shy), I usually end up fvcking them. Maybe not at the end of the night, but eventually.

Being an assh0le, or showing confidence doesn't work for me either. Maybe it's not natural for me? I only get anywhere by being a "sweetheart", who's "funny" and "cute". Whatever.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Going with the flow without kino & game is gonna land your ass straight into the friends zone.
 
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Gustav Yavo

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how much azz are you getting by not initiating any moves? like are you bangin so much that your ****'s sore or are you just gettin the occasional puzzy.

If I try flirting, or invite them back to my house, or merely touch them, they repell in disgust or treat me like a little kid, even if they've been flirting with me all night.
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then your either not doing or saying the right things, and this has completely killed any interest levels, or they just didnt have any interest to begin with.
 
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Just being a girls "friend" until THEY make a move.

uh, no. But push-pull involves acting that way SOME of the time, then making a move later. You mix it up and keep them guessing.
 
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it's not that it's not natural, it's just that you're not being congruent. whatever image you have in your head of how to attract a girl, it's not correct and you're blowing yourself out trying to be that image

figure out what you're doing wrong
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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