"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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is it ok to talk about sex with a girl youre after?

duke104

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would talking about sex with her be too personal and potentially put you in the friend zone or is it something that would increase your chances to get her in bed?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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btownbuck2012

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yea dude it's a good idea. joking around about sex will get her thinking about sex while shes talking to you. Just don't be all weird about. keep it light and build from there
 

f283000

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Of course you should talk about sex and kissing too! It gets her thinking about it. The key is to use them as topics of conversation but not do it in a way that makes you seem like a desperate chump out to have sex/kiss her right after you met her for a first date!

These are topics of conversation that will separate you from the average chump talking about video games and other boring usual stuff. Try to use them in a c&f sort of way that will not make her uncomfortable but still get the effect of her thinking about those things.
 

Maxtro

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f283000 can you expand on that?

How would you bring up conversations about kissing and sex?
 

Maxtro

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Yeah, ain't it amazing?

All I can really say, is that I only really learn from experience, and I've had a very limited number of experiences. I have too many huge gaps of time where I don't have any female related events and thus remain stagnant for that time period.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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(JJ)

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to expand on it, its just constant use of sexual innuendos, jokes, and hints.

if you keep the topic on sexual jokes and use a lot of kino you'll never be in the friendzone.
 

Mistic

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Of course. joke about how you cant wait to pull her hair and whisper naughty things in her ear. What do you think she want to hear about, your stupid job?
 
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