"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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is it ok to give hug to a girl in American culture?

moneyisking

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literally... i asked a random girl to play air hockey with me, and i had fun gaming her. then when i had to go, i told her it was nice seeing you and gave her hug. i saw her later on the same day and she seemed pretty open and positive to my presence.


now the reason i ask this is b/c it's been about 2yrs since coming into US, and i only know the superficial side of this American culture. does this work as being needy or does this work as exhibiting confidence and masculine sexuality?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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War Against Betaism

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I always thought it was a custom to hug a girl when you guys part ways. Nothing needy about hugging a girl at all.
 

Vanilla

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Depends, if it's someone I've met before there's always a hello and goodbye hug.

Someone I just met, if the vibes are good then I hug away.
 

Sofomore

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Hugs are perfectly acceptable. The more you give them the better people will feel around you. Just keep it within reason, or else you might come off as gay.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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