is it ok to chat online to girls you've met already (for a bit)

[HappyHarryHardon]

like this girl ive been seeing shes always on messenger. im not. sometimes she calls me asking why im not online. is it okay to go on for like 5/10 minutes to chat? sometimes i go on and chat to her for 10 minutes or so. that cant be harmful can it? all in moderation right?

 

[mahoney]

its totally fine to do this - as you say, in moderation

if she always asks you to go on messenger - then go on messenger! but only SOME of the times she asks. if you are actually busy, or you don't feel like it at that minute then don't go on it, or if you're feeling like you don't have anything interesting to say that day, then don't go on. just go on some of the time - and when you go on make sure any chat you have is interesting, and the minute it feels like a conversation has reached its natural end, then say i have to go now. don't worry too much if she leaves before you do, just make sure that all the conversation is fun and positive, and the minute you think its kind of going to run out of steam that day, then draw it to a close and let her know you have to go - all conversations have natural conclusions and finishing points, too many dudes want to drag it on past that point, and thats where it goes wrong for them

 

[nightcrawler]

this forum is so sad sometimes...

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

I just wonder how many of these accounts are the same person. Then again, I like to believe that no one person has that much free time to harass a board.

Maybe this is just the state of the union. Our math, science, and sex education is falling behind or non-existent for most students. Sure, we're way better off than a 3rd world country, but you wouldn't know it in the suburban wasteland of Chicago's South Side or the ghettos of LA. No, we're producing unskilled laborers who can't even balance their own checkbooks, and telling them that they need a college degree to sell insurance for a living.

 

[PDubb75]

I just wonder how many of these accounts are the same person. Then again, I like to believe that no one person has that much free time to harass a board.

Maybe this is just the state of the union. Our math, science, and sex education is falling behind or non-existent for most students. Sure, we're way better off than a 3rd world country, but you wouldn't know it in the suburban wasteland of Chicago's South Side or the ghettos of LA. No, we're producing unskilled laborers who can't even balance their own checkbooks, and telling them that they need a college degree to sell insurance for a living.

While I completely agree with your point, I just find it funny how a question about talking to a girl on IM brought up a comment on the ghettos in America. I'm all for the randomness though...

To the OP, I personally don't think talking on IM is as horrible as people make it out to be. BUT, that's only if you 1) don't do it too much, 2) have solid game so that you don't mess up any attraction there may have been beforehand, and 3) control the convo, including when it ends.