"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it love?

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Can a 27 year old guy fall in "love" (as he says LOL) with a 50+ year old woman or is it just plain and simple mother issues? (Guy hardly talks to his mom, has a bad relationship with her cause he is stupid and bitter and immature)

He talks to her for hours on the phone, puts her to sleep :O and all this **** that you normally do with your girlfriend, a normal chick in her twenties
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A potential motherfvcker or tittybaby candidate there…
It’s usually an insecurity, not love.
 
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If she’s an ugly 50 year old then it’s mommy issues. If it’s like a hot milf/cougar type gig, then no, he just likes older women.
 
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ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:
If she’s an ugly 50 year old then it’s mommy issues. If it’s like a hot milf/cougar type gig, then no, he just likes older women.
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Nah, she's OK looking, but it's probably the mother issues. I know this guy inside out since I live with him since more than 3 years now and he only goes for older women who are 5s or 6s at best. Anyways, cause I don't like to measure the hotness from my perspective, but I still think they are just average or above average looking.

AND, add to this, he doesn't treat them like the hot cougar or mommy whom he's ****ing, he treats them like a little girl and likes to be caressed by them LOL he should go get that from his mom
 
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I know a guy (29 now) who's been in a relationship with a 50 year old for like 5 years now. Live together. But I would say their relationship is not ideal, at least from what I saw. Lots of little arguments and I think insecurities and such.

I think it's not particularly good to have that large of an age gap in general for a LTR. If only I'm thinking, if he wants to have kids. Other potential issues too. You can definitely enjoy each other's company on multiple levels. But yeah.

Not sure what to think on your friend's approach to this - but because of the abnormal treatment (as a little girl vs an adult relationship), probably some issues underlying, unfortunately.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You talk for hours? I tease the **** out of mine. Women talk to other women for hours
 
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