"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is it just me...?

Juan_Man

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Or does it seem like every girl on the planet has a boyfriend? And the rare amount of girls that are single are unfriendly.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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THIAGO BRAZIL II

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there are single women out there. If they are unfriendly, it is their problem. You are a friendly person, good for you! They are not.. their problem.
 

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Is this the same Thiago Brazil from back in the day? Welcome back!
 

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Juan_Man said:
Or does it seem like every girl on the planet has a boyfriend? And the rare amount of girls that are single are unfriendly.
Clubs are filled with single girls. They filter out all the ones with boyfriends.. most of the time. ;)
 

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I find clubs are full of relationships. I used to think single girls didnt exsist and that the ones that did were up themselves...Its a load of bull...Its also not the right way to think. Get yourself out of that thought process and general rut. Go Sarge on!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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wheelin&dealin said:
Clubs are filled with single girls. They filter out all the ones with boyfriends.. most of the time. ;)
Some chick(who has had a boyfriend of 3 years) at work went a local club,damn if I would have known she was there I would have gone in a heart beat...She is super fine and its a perfect excuss for me to start the kino. Oh well no point fretting over a lost oppurtunity:rock:
 

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I've noticed that most women I've been around who I'd hook up with have boyfriends. They may not be happy and on the prowl for someone new, but VERY rarely will you come across one who isn't atleast fvcking some guy. If they get lonely enough they'll just go to a club/bar and let a guy pick them up. No real effort has to be put into this, as we all know, just look pretty and you'll get laid. I think the best thing would be not to think about it, just approach any woman, especially if you don't know whether or not she's seeing someone. I made the mistake of getting upset when I was being pursued by a girl who I found out later had a bf. I should've just fvcked her, it's what she wanted after all right?
 

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My problem lately has been that I will meet and start talking to a girl regularly and think there is some potential. She's cute, friendly, and very approachable, yet in the back of my mind, I'm like "Wait. This girl is probably seeing someone. Wait it out and pick up more clues before you start trying to pursue her." And before I know it, my suspicions are confirmed. The current girl I like may or may not have a boyfriend. I saw her at the library with some guy and they walked out together (actually he was maybe a foot behind her as they walked out). Before that, I always saw her walking by herself. I'm still wondering if there's a chance.
 

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I hear you man, and it really annoys me, but it can't be helped. Unless you ask them upfront how else are you going to know without talking to them and escalating to something more? You know they love attention, so most times they'll be really cool and flirty until you make a move and then it's confirmed whether you'll get anything more out of it or they string you along (if you allow it).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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