"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is it just me?

Naughty Ninja

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Is it just me or does anyone else get sick of the constant whining and complaining on these forums? It's like one post after another is someone complaining or asking questions and not reading or following sound advice? Does anyone else get sick of it? Or do you like to wallow in other people's constant misery even AFTER they've been given good advice?

Can ANYONE make posts about SUCCESS and keep these forums on a POSITIVE note? Jesus christ...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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synergy1

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for the guys who are new/struggling, the questions are fine. Can't fault anyone for wanting to improve. on the other hand, its irritating when the same people who ***** and moan turn around and offer their advice.

Remember this: the dudes who are successful probably aren't posting as much. I know I wasn't when I was getting more action!
 

Maxtro

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Naughty Ninja said:
Is it just me or does anyone else get sick of the constant whining and complaining on these forums? It's like one post after another is someone complaining or asking questions and not reading or following sound advice? Does anyone else get sick of it? Or do you like to wallow in other people's constant misery even AFTER they've been given good advice?

Can ANYONE make posts about SUCCESS and keep these forums on a POSITIVE note? Jesus christ...
Do you find it ironic that you are complaining about people complaining?
 

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I think its more along the lines of Sosuave has so many new people joining. Most the threads that may seem repetetive are from users who have just joined and know nothing. Maybe they need some advice really quick as they are dealing with a difficult situation at hand at the moment.

Hey I applaud all them for having the guts to face the wolves :D.

But it would be helpful if they took the advice as you guys know much more than noobies like me. (I am guilty but I apologized.) haha.

everyone's gotta start somewhere.
 

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I actually know Jesus Christ. He's a pretty cool guy once you get to know him.

Anyways, to answer your question, success stories are rare as with any hobby. This is a place to learn. Just like any hobby people desire to succeed at, you will see more people starting this stuff, but only the passionate ones will get past the starting line and eventually taste success.

I just read a thread dealing with the same general topic, so your not alone on this. I would love to read more success stories, but i'm learning to be content with what I get.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The main reason success stories are rare here is because when a guy finally figures it out, he leaves the forum. The ratio to people who know what they are doing, and are helpful to the guys who don't have a clue are really bad.

The guys that are good who do choose to stay and help others, often get frustrated, so they just stop posting.
 

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Most of the whiney guys that post, get advice, promptly ignore or debate it, then post back with continued fail want a magical quick fix.

Rarely do they bother to take the time to read archives or the bible or anything else that would really help them change their core ideas which in fact are really causing their failure.

9 times out of 10 I can tell in a guys first paragraph whether or not he's done any reading elseware on this site.

Most of the questions on this forum have already been posted and answered if they would just take the time.

But, alas, they won't, and they wont improve, and then they will post some rant about SS being a crap site.

Oh well.

In the big scheme of things it's their loss because SS is a HUGE resource.

Over and Out.
 
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