Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I have few guy friends and prefer to work alone as far as meeting women. I'm an introvert so working alone works better for me. I am forced to approach because I don't have the comfort zone of a buddy to hang out with. (With a buddy, it is easy to chat with him all night and procrastinate as far as meeting women.) Plus I don't have to worry about a more outgoing or better looking friend stealing the girls' attention.Matthew Lyon said:
Nice, we share almost the exact same personalities as far as I can tell.Mike32ct said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If there is a big group of guys that hang out, this can be attractive to a woman, because she can see herself as being invited into this large social circle where she can interact with a bunch of guys. It's part of a guy's selling point.Mike32ct said:
Introverts tend to place more value on a good strong relationship. Extroverts will be often be just as happy with a bunch of acquaintances around, as long as they have people to feed off of and draw energy from. With introverts, large groups tend to drain their energy, so they tend to seek fewer, but closer, relationships.Cherokee said:
Matthew Lyon said:
My success is moderate. My big sticking point is that I'm not consistent. I have my "hot streaks" followed by "dry spells." However, my understanding is that this is not uncommon in this game.Matthew Lyon said:
Exactly. A wingman with integrity is rare.DonGorgon said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Absolutely correct. I'm not knocking the social circle/wingmen method. Some guys do extremely well with it. It is one method (with its pros and cons), but it's not the only method. Working alone also has its pros and cons, but works for some guys.zekko said:
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