Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have few guy friends and prefer to work alone as far as meeting women. I'm an introvert so working alone works better for me. I am forced to approach because I don't have the comfort zone of a buddy to hang out with. (With a buddy, it is easy to chat with him all night and procrastinate as far as meeting women.) Plus I don't have to worry about a more outgoing or better looking friend stealing the girls' attention.Matthew Lyon said:
Nice, we share almost the exact same personalities as far as I can tell.Mike32ct said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
If there is a big group of guys that hang out, this can be attractive to a woman, because she can see herself as being invited into this large social circle where she can interact with a bunch of guys. It's part of a guy's selling point.Mike32ct said:
Introverts tend to place more value on a good strong relationship. Extroverts will be often be just as happy with a bunch of acquaintances around, as long as they have people to feed off of and draw energy from. With introverts, large groups tend to drain their energy, so they tend to seek fewer, but closer, relationships.Cherokee said:
Matthew Lyon said:
My success is moderate. My big sticking point is that I'm not consistent. I have my "hot streaks" followed by "dry spells." However, my understanding is that this is not uncommon in this game.Matthew Lyon said:
Exactly. A wingman with integrity is rare.DonGorgon said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Absolutely correct. I'm not knocking the social circle/wingmen method. Some guys do extremely well with it. It is one method (with its pros and cons), but it's not the only method. Working alone also has its pros and cons, but works for some guys.zekko said:
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