"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Is it just me or can you guys not stand talking to women for over 15 minutes?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Miguel
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For example, always try to talk in statements FOLLOWED by questions. Heck even just statements are okay. [Such as " I love this band".] It shows comfort and actually goes to show that you're intrested in the other person... and you don't get the werid interogation feeling. Secondly, make sure that when you ask a question, it's open ended. Finally, ask and clerify. Restate what they said, ask them to eleborate on things, go into the detials... thats where conversations come from.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jafyk
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verysuave said:
It is you. I had women that I've been able to talk to for hours and not get bored. I've also come across women that it's such a strain to hold a conversation. Those women are normally hit and runs for me. I'd rather have the the woman I can have more interesting interaction with than just sex, which after a while gets boring.
I am very good when it comes to talking to people. Like, the subject will always be about YOU and not sound like a freakin interview.Miguel said:
Why would you want to talk to women for +15 minutes? It's just weird, my primal instincts kick in. As my primal instincts says - the more conversation, the higher the chances they'll turn the table around against you. 99% of this only applies to WOMEN i want to bang I suppose..
I feel like the more I talk to women, the more we just become the "FRIENDS" type
You don't need women friends to have INTERESTING convos with, you can do that with guy friends.. that is if you have any guy friends if YOU KNOW what i mean.
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Paintballguy
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You CAN'T have intellectual conversations with women, they will get BORED. maybe a .01 % of them and normally, those are the homely ones.Paintballguy said:
The only guys women talk to for HOURS and HOURS are their gay friends who they will not have sex with.
Yeah, can you seriouisly imagine a bad boy talk to a chick for hours and hours and hours just to try and get laid.
Cuz, I would get bored too if all she did was blab.
bigjohnson
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I find talking to many girls can be interesting if they are interesting. My own issue as a younger man used to be that when I was talking with a girl I found attractive I couldn't get my mind off what you could call the goal zone. Always trying to work an angle, always alert and on edge. It's exhausting.
If you just relax and TALK to her you will find some have interests and views that are legitimately worth the time, just like people in general. Maybe socializing in mixed groups will help you.
Don't look for others to have a nice conversation.
Like whatever a person does, he can tell something about their personality and it's so interresting! Then he steps in the convo and just says: Wait wait, I just realised something about you! You're so____ or you have this thing, etc. etc. The guy is the best conversationalist I know. I never get bored with him, this guy can talk about his desodorant for 10 whole minutes and people just don't get bored. (Well our group does, because we know him and all, but other people find it interesting). Proof that how you say it matters. People are always eager to hear him speak. (Combined with a great voice).
So thanks to that, I'm always looking for (positive) things about people's personalities.... Then people do that to me, and it makes the whole thing so interresting!
Back to subject, I don't get bored talking to girls I am really interrested to. Sometimes I think I'm interrested, but they're boring, but if I really really like a girl, I could enjoy a conversation for a long time, especially in the early stages.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Paintballguy
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He was saying how Dane Cook can talk about nothing for 10 minutes yet still be funny somehow.Groovy said:
I did not get it.
If you're making fun of me
If not explain
If you're like me, then you need to find activities to do with other people. You need to find fun activities that require coordination, such as rock climbing, paintball, or even cooperative video games. Or you can do what most successful adults do: hit the bars and clubs, or become a networking-event junkie.
Conversation is great and all, but you don't need a whole lot of conversation to make a dynamic work.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
I definitely agree. hahDemon said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.