Is it good to tease a girl about her possible interest in another guy?

[Poonani Maker]

I was having lunch with this 20 year old junior a few weeks ago, and she made a snide remark about a guy we both know that he "talks too much" etc etc. I didn't agree or disagree, I just let her go on talking behind the guy's back. He's got a good reputation, but she seems to despise him for no reason. She's always been fond or attracted to me since I first met her 2 years ago. She's boring as I am, quiet, Smart, very hard studier, straight A's, but accident prone, clumsy, non-athletic, just a nerd, but exotic looking, with a nice bod. I like her name too. It would go well with my last name.

Should I have called her out on talking about the other guy? That she must like him because he "bothers" her? Should I have said her name like her father might, and then proceed to tell her that she shouldn't talk about people behind their backs, that there's no reason to gossip? I feel as though, because of the age gap between us at 14 years, that I'm Jeremy Irons in the movie "Lolita" trying to be tender with and teach her.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

There's always a reason: She's probably into the guy. But you were right not to say anything, it would only add fuel to the fire and accelerate the impending LJBF.

 

[Trader]

I was having lunch with this 20 year old junior a few weeks ago, and she made a snide remark about a guy we both know that he "talks too much" etc etc. I didn't agree or disagree, I just let her go on talking behind the guy's back. He's got a good reputation, but she seems to despise him for no reason. She's always been fond or attracted to me since I first met her 2 years ago. She's boring as I am, quiet, Smart, very hard studier, straight A's, but accident prone, clumsy, non-athletic, just a nerd, but exotic looking, with a nice bod. I like her name too. It would go well with my last name.

Should I have called her out on talking about the other guy? That she must like him because he "bothers" her? Should I have said her name like her father might, and then proceed to tell her that she shouldn't talk about people behind their backs, that there's no reason to gossip? I feel as though, because of the age gap between us at 14 years, that I'm Jeremy Irons in the movie "Lolita" trying to be tender with and teach her.

I have experienced this firsthand - I have put a girl in her place for gossiping (talking smack) about someone, and all the girls profoundly respect me for that.

The reason why is because girls always talk smack about other girls, and again, girls want in a guy what they themselves lack. They want a guy who does not backstab others, so it is very impressive when a guy defends another person's honor like that.