"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is it better to flake in person or via text?

El Payaso

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I have a date tomorrow with this girl. However, I just realized, I have an appointment and the weather will be absolutely dreadful anyway.

I was going to text her that I can't make it and to reschedule. Then I realized, I'll see her sometime today in the course of my work. Do I text her or do I do it in person? Which is better? Perhaps it doesn't really matter? Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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goldengoose

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Why are you trying to date a co worker? If you see her during the course of the day, I would do it in person. That way you can set something else up faster and maybe use the weather as an excuse to get her over to your place instead. I mean that's what you really want isn't it? Only text when you don't have a chance of personal contact.
 

El Payaso

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goldengoose said:
Why are you trying to date a co worker? If you see her during the course of the day, I would do it in person. That way you can set something else up faster and maybe use the weather as an excuse to get her over to your place instead. I mean that's what you really want isn't it? Only text when you don't have a chance of personal contact.
Oh, no. She's not a coworker. Far from it. I told her in person anyway and she just suggested we have lunch right then and there so it went well.
 
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