"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is it better to flake in person or via text?

El Payaso

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I have a date tomorrow with this girl. However, I just realized, I have an appointment and the weather will be absolutely dreadful anyway.

I was going to text her that I can't make it and to reschedule. Then I realized, I'll see her sometime today in the course of my work. Do I text her or do I do it in person? Which is better? Perhaps it doesn't really matter? Thanks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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goldengoose

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Why are you trying to date a co worker? If you see her during the course of the day, I would do it in person. That way you can set something else up faster and maybe use the weather as an excuse to get her over to your place instead. I mean that's what you really want isn't it? Only text when you don't have a chance of personal contact.
 

El Payaso

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goldengoose said:
Why are you trying to date a co worker? If you see her during the course of the day, I would do it in person. That way you can set something else up faster and maybe use the weather as an excuse to get her over to your place instead. I mean that's what you really want isn't it? Only text when you don't have a chance of personal contact.
Oh, no. She's not a coworker. Far from it. I told her in person anyway and she just suggested we have lunch right then and there so it went well.
 
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