"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is it better to flake in person or via text?

El Payaso

El Payaso

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I have a date tomorrow with this girl. However, I just realized, I have an appointment and the weather will be absolutely dreadful anyway.

I was going to text her that I can't make it and to reschedule. Then I realized, I'll see her sometime today in the course of my work. Do I text her or do I do it in person? Which is better? Perhaps it doesn't really matter? Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why are you trying to date a co worker? If you see her during the course of the day, I would do it in person. That way you can set something else up faster and maybe use the weather as an excuse to get her over to your place instead. I mean that's what you really want isn't it? Only text when you don't have a chance of personal contact.
 
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goldengoose said:
Why are you trying to date a co worker? If you see her during the course of the day, I would do it in person. That way you can set something else up faster and maybe use the weather as an excuse to get her over to your place instead. I mean that's what you really want isn't it? Only text when you don't have a chance of personal contact.
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Oh, no. She's not a coworker. Far from it. I told her in person anyway and she just suggested we have lunch right then and there so it went well.
 
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