Locogooner
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should you just go for it, or let her hug you?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Is it beta to ask for a hug?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What it works for me is raising an arm keeping the same position with my feet and have her coming to me( as u're offering protection being the you taller than the avg woman).
Ask is seriously too low, can you imagine to watch the scene in 3rd person where you look at her and say "can I hug you?" or you going out of your way open your arms and hug there.
I say let her come or strongly suggest her to come.
Ask is seriously too low, can you imagine to watch the scene in 3rd person where you look at her and say "can I hug you?" or you going out of your way open your arms and hug there.
I say let her come or strongly suggest her to come.
You're looking into this way too much. It's a hug for gods sake. Whether you hug her, or ask for one, or she hugs you, it doesn't matter. She's not gonna think "oh he just asked me for a hug what a lower social being." She's gonna hug you and be happy about it.
EDIT: But if you ask, don't say "can I hug you?" Say "give me a hug!"
EDIT: But if you ask, don't say "can I hug you?" Say "give me a hug!"
Mantis Toboggan
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This thread is beta
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mantis Toboggan
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For god's sake...it's a hug. Not a date. Not sex. Who cares.Strelok said:
People need to man up and stop asking "PUA advice" on every damn detail of their interaction with others.
"Is it beta to say thank you?" "Is it beta to let the woman drive?"
No, it's beta to doubt yourself about crap that doesn't even matter.
The OP is under 20 posts therefore he cannot exactly establish what is right to ask and what is a non sense, I'm sure you all know the confusion to which average men are subject out there,so since it costed me no effort to give him a general suggestion I did that.Mantis Toboggan said:
I'm not saying this thread is beta or not, I simply asked if this thread doesnt have the necessary requirements to be considered serious why you felt the need to take part of it? same question to scribblec.
You guys are entitled to your opinion as much as you have any right to ignore something you find unworthy, however I see no reason to come just to shot down the op's request.
You say men need to "man up", dont you think in order to do so they need to be leaded, especially the new members who still suffers from social conditioning?
Probably the best answer to give to the op was simply to stop considering small events as important and focus on the bigger picture, I didnt think about that myself either.
i felt the need to partake because i felt like it really , i remember i used to think of all the petty things i used to worry about, but hindsight is a beautyful thing and if only i was told not to worry about this **** from the start my progress would of been much quicker then the 3 years it took 