"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is it best to go ghost in the face of impending friend zone?

teddy

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Yeah, I know, I'm not supposed to be in this position in the first place, blah, blah, blah, but I can't become perfect overnight. I'm getting better, but still need work and I know that.

But if you're sensing an impending friend zone, is it best to just go ghost for a while? Seems like the only way to increase interest if there ever was any.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What I do is, I say that I don't believe in friendship among sexes and I do believe it's true!

It might be too extreme for you so leading the conversation there, you can make yourself clear that you can't be a friend with a beautiful woman! She will probably ask you why. Well, nature made us guys that way! We tend to like a beautifull woman so we can't see her as a friend! We can't talk to her like we would to our buddies cause it's our nature to want her for something else!

I don't think going ghost will give her any clue to be honest! She might wonder why but she won't be able to figure it out if you haven't made your intentions clear! Don't confuse interest with curiosity of what happened all of the sudden.
 

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teddy said:
But if you're sensing an impending friend zone, is it best to just go ghost for a while? Seems like the only way to increase interest if there ever was any.
Flawed reasoning^

You dont go "no contact" to increase interest. You go no contact to get over a girl. In this case, although you may have selected the best tactic....the reasoning is incorrect.

You need to start thinking in terms of being "the prize". Why would you want to chase a girl and make her interested in you? Instead...think about finding women who ARE interested in you and hook up with them. There are billions on the planet earth....you're bound to find a few.

FORGET THIS ONE. If she comes back, she comes back. If she doesnt, she doesnt.
 

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TheException said:
Flawed reasoning^

You dont go "no contact" to increase interest. You go no contact to get over a girl. In this case, although you may have selected the best tactic....the reasoning is incorrect.

You need to start thinking in terms of being "the prize". Why would you want to chase a girl and make her interested in you? Instead...think about finding women who ARE interested in you and hook up with them. There are billions on the planet earth....you're bound to find a few.

FORGET THIS ONE. If she comes back, she comes back. If she doesnt, she doesnt.
Yeah, you're right. My mindset has been pretty good recently, I've been working on this. I should think more like, "okay, I'm dropping her because she obviously doesn't want to be with an awesome, sexy guy like me. Let's see if this next chick takes up the opportunity."
 

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DonJuanit0 said:
What I do is, I say that I don't believe in friendship among sexes and I do believe it's true!

It might be too extreme for you so leading the conversation there, you can make yourself clear that you can't be a friend with a beautiful woman! She will probably ask you why. Well, nature made us guys that way! We tend to like a beautifull woman so we can't see her as a friend! We can't talk to her like we would to our buddies cause it's our nature to want her for something else!

I don't think going ghost will give her any clue to be honest! She might wonder why but she won't be able to figure it out if you haven't made your intentions clear! Don't confuse interest with curiosity of what happened all of the sudden.
You're right, but I actually did make my intentions clear (though a little too late for my liking). Obviously, I think I screwed this one up.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Firstly if you dont want to be in the friendzone. Fvck the friendship, write it off now, stop trying to save face and "not be that guy" because that's all crap.

Secondly, she will have a hard time seeing you as a friend if you keep trying to fvck her. So make sure there is no doubt(that usually takes time) she may give you the "you're just a brother to me" but again that's all crap, you can work through that by being so god damn sexual she cannot ignore it.
 

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Mr Wright said:
Firstly if you dont want to be in the friendzone. Fvck the friendship, write it off now, stop trying to save face and "not be that guy" because that's all crap.

Secondly, she will have a hard time seeing you as a friend if you keep trying to fvck her. So make sure there is no doubt(that usually takes time) she may give you the "you're just a brother to me" but again that's all crap, you can work through that by being so god damn sexual she cannot ignore it.
So going ghost doesn't help?
 

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The world is a small place, you may see this girl again a year from now.

Show your affection, give her a chance to bite, if it's not making you happy cut her azz off and keep living your life. Maybe next time you see her she will know you are not some beta orbiter she can toy with and she will take you seriously.

The most important thing is to always make a good impression.
 

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SgtSplacker said:
The world is a small place, you may see this girl again a year from now.

Show your affection, give her a chance to bite, if it's not making you happy cut her azz off and keep living your life. Maybe next time you see her she will know you are not some beta orbiter she can toy with and she will take you seriously.

The most important thing is to always make a good impression.
She wasn't responding/reciprocating flirting/kino/innuendos. But I knew I made a good impression on her, so that's why I figure if I cut it off now, there will be a better shot later if we ever reconnect.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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teddy said:
She wasn't responding/reciprocating flirting/kino/innuendos. But I knew I made a good impression on her, so that's why I figure if I cut it off now, there will be a better shot later if we ever reconnect.
Yeah man, few things are better then going to a bar to pick up, seeing a girl you knew and she remembers something cool about your past. It's almost a sure thing...
 
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