"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is it afc to make up for something which u didnt need to?

pikachu69

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Is it afc to make it up to a girl for not contacting her about taking her out for valentines but she was the 1 who should have contacted you if she wanted to meet up for it? I made an afc error of trying to set up a 2nd date on valentines on a 1st date. I never bothered calling as I expected her to text me the next day just to show me she was interested. Can you pretend that it's your fault as a way to arrange the 2nd date later by saying you'll make it up to her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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starplayer

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Yes it is AFC. Do not supplicate.

Next time you talk to her don't even bring it up. Wait a few days then pretend like it never happened and she will probably do the same.

If she brings it up tease her about it and change the subject.
 

pikachu69

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Yeah you're right. I read the bible and it said that for the 2nd date u should bring flowers to demonstrate that she did well on the 1st date. My reason being is that I plan to go on a free date where no money is spent at all so buying flowers to present at the beginning will at least won't make me look cheap (I think she thinks this) but it feels like I'm supplicating buying flowers or trying too hard given I acted afc on the 1st date. Is the flowers thing on 2nd date only if you didn't act afc on the 1st?
starplayer said:
Yes it is AFC. Do not supplicate.

Next time you talk to her don't even bring it up. Wait a few days then pretend like it never happened and she will probably do the same.

If she brings it up tease her about it and change the subject.
 
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