"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is it a bad thing that girls think I'm taken?

tryst type

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I've noticed a steady pattern with the last three new girls I've hung out with.

They all presumed I had a gf, I have no idea why but it's pretty baffling to me.

What would make them think that, and is it a good or bad thing that they do?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warrior74

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I get that a lot. Usually for these reasons.

1. I'm so laid back and relaxed I must have someone else. I'm not overtly itching to get in their pants. (I'm not 'thirsty' as the kids say).

2. My game is so tight that they want me, and of course other women would want me so of course I have someone in my life. (That's a good sign).

3. I'm acting like guys with a girlfriend act around other women. Which is to not be too flirty and overt and sometimes too stiff or formal. (not good).

How are you acting with them and how are they responding? As long as they are still coming around deny it once, ignore it a second time and carry on. Maybe put a little more aggressiveness in your game at this point.
 

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1 and 2 are on point of my behavior around them. Mostly the first one, I've been told I'm too relaxed from the get go like it's a bad thing or something hah.

What I've been doing when it comes up is say something like "no way I'm married, don't tell her" then I kiss them
 

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I get the opposite. I'll wear a ring on my finger and they ignore it.
 

PeakIV

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girls thinking your with someone else is a good thing, it enhances your value.

Think of it like a child - no child wants to play with a toy if no other children are playing with it.
If another child is playing with a toy that's the toy they want to play with.

People always want what someone else has.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Blackmm

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PeakIV said:
girls thinking your with someone else is a good thing, it enhances your value.

Think of it like a child - no child wants to play with a toy if no other children are playing with it.
If another child is playing with a toy that's the toy they want to play with.

People always want what someone else has.
Exactly. Women want what other women have.
 
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