"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is it a bad idea to try game in my situation?

Epicwinguy

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So I make minimum wage at a job that keeps cutting my hours, live with my parents, and don't even have a car.

That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.

Should I even bother with this? Will the IOIs become less common as I get older?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It probably would be better to prioritize your life first. Women won't help much if you can't support yourself.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.
All you need is a plan that is plausible enough when they ask the "what do you do" question. "I'm studying to become a doctor," for example instead of "I work at Taco Bell." Then talk about what kind of doctor you plan on being.

Other than that, don't worry. Anything that comes up that you can't handle is just something to get better at for next time.

(Unless of course, this is another one of those, "I can't get girls because of X, please everybody agree with me" threads.)
 

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I disagree with most of the above posts.

No, actually, I disagree with YOUR original post. Why are these two things, working on your life and dating, mutually exclusive? It seems idiotic to completely categorize the two as an "one or the other" sort of situation. Do you really want to work on your life for two years and have no sex at all? Probably not. Do you really want to have lots of sex but still live with your parents in two years? Not at all.

My point is that you can work on your life, A LOT, and still date. You obviously wont be able to go as hard at game as I do (because I'm doing it 24/7) and thus probably wont be able to get as good. But, you can still go out once, twice, or even three times per week while still working on your life!

IMO, you just have to find the right BALANCE for you because I don't think these things are necessarily mutually exclusive.
 

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So I make minimum wage at a job that keeps cutting my hours, live with my parents, and don't even have a car.

That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.

Should I even bother with this? Will the IOIs become less common as I get older?
I don't think you have anything to lose if you bother with that. You'll just procrastinate and never handle this then you'll be missing out. You'll find if handle this area then other things in life will naturally work itself out. Maybe the lady might know someone, or have a connection that can help set you up in life.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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