"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is it a bad idea to try game in my situation?

Epicwinguy

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So I make minimum wage at a job that keeps cutting my hours, live with my parents, and don't even have a car.

That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.

Should I even bother with this? Will the IOIs become less common as I get older?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It probably would be better to prioritize your life first. Women won't help much if you can't support yourself.
 

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That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.
All you need is a plan that is plausible enough when they ask the "what do you do" question. "I'm studying to become a doctor," for example instead of "I work at Taco Bell." Then talk about what kind of doctor you plan on being.

Other than that, don't worry. Anything that comes up that you can't handle is just something to get better at for next time.

(Unless of course, this is another one of those, "I can't get girls because of X, please everybody agree with me" threads.)
 

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I disagree with most of the above posts.

No, actually, I disagree with YOUR original post. Why are these two things, working on your life and dating, mutually exclusive? It seems idiotic to completely categorize the two as an "one or the other" sort of situation. Do you really want to work on your life for two years and have no sex at all? Probably not. Do you really want to have lots of sex but still live with your parents in two years? Not at all.

My point is that you can work on your life, A LOT, and still date. You obviously wont be able to go as hard at game as I do (because I'm doing it 24/7) and thus probably wont be able to get as good. But, you can still go out once, twice, or even three times per week while still working on your life!

IMO, you just have to find the right BALANCE for you because I don't think these things are necessarily mutually exclusive.
 

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So I make minimum wage at a job that keeps cutting my hours, live with my parents, and don't even have a car.

That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.

Should I even bother with this? Will the IOIs become less common as I get older?
I don't think you have anything to lose if you bother with that. You'll just procrastinate and never handle this then you'll be missing out. You'll find if handle this area then other things in life will naturally work itself out. Maybe the lady might know someone, or have a connection that can help set you up in life.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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