"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is it a bad idea to try game in my situation?

Epicwinguy

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So I make minimum wage at a job that keeps cutting my hours, live with my parents, and don't even have a car.

That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.

Should I even bother with this? Will the IOIs become less common as I get older?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It probably would be better to prioritize your life first. Women won't help much if you can't support yourself.
 

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That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.
All you need is a plan that is plausible enough when they ask the "what do you do" question. "I'm studying to become a doctor," for example instead of "I work at Taco Bell." Then talk about what kind of doctor you plan on being.

Other than that, don't worry. Anything that comes up that you can't handle is just something to get better at for next time.

(Unless of course, this is another one of those, "I can't get girls because of X, please everybody agree with me" threads.)
 

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I disagree with most of the above posts.

No, actually, I disagree with YOUR original post. Why are these two things, working on your life and dating, mutually exclusive? It seems idiotic to completely categorize the two as an "one or the other" sort of situation. Do you really want to work on your life for two years and have no sex at all? Probably not. Do you really want to have lots of sex but still live with your parents in two years? Not at all.

My point is that you can work on your life, A LOT, and still date. You obviously wont be able to go as hard at game as I do (because I'm doing it 24/7) and thus probably wont be able to get as good. But, you can still go out once, twice, or even three times per week while still working on your life!

IMO, you just have to find the right BALANCE for you because I don't think these things are necessarily mutually exclusive.
 

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So I make minimum wage at a job that keeps cutting my hours, live with my parents, and don't even have a car.

That being said I get IOIs, sometimes they are pretty blatant, from pretty girls. I reason I should wait until I am better off to bother with dating but I'm not getting any younger, and it sucks each time I see an opportunity and she gets away.

Should I even bother with this? Will the IOIs become less common as I get older?
I don't think you have anything to lose if you bother with that. You'll just procrastinate and never handle this then you'll be missing out. You'll find if handle this area then other things in life will naturally work itself out. Maybe the lady might know someone, or have a connection that can help set you up in life.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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