"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is hypergamy so bad that even p0rn stars are picky?

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P0rn star can't do scene with ugly-faced man.

 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wut?! I thought there was a market in porn for guys like that? The slim geeky looking type that a lot of porn watchers probably would identify with.

Btw, the word "porn" isn't censored.
 

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Wut?! I thought there was a market in porn for guys like that? The slim geeky looking type that a lot of porn watchers probably would identify with.

Btw, the word "porn" isn't censored.
Men don’t really care too much what the guy looks like. But yeah I can totally see the women being picky about who to do videos with.
 

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Am I the only guy here on SS who thinks that hypergamy is a load of crap?

It can't be true simply because when a woman is in love, hypergamy is dead.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hypergamy in porn

meanwhile Dani Daniels is a 9/10 married to a 3/10



 

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Porn stars are young, attractive and wealthy. Plenty of them do porn for cash and not a love of sex, so of course they're picky, many are 9/10 22 year old gold diggers
 

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hypergamy in porn

meanwhile Dani Daniels is a 9/10 married to a 3/10



He's either rich or is really good in bed or both

Men don’t really care too much what the guy looks like.
I think that's within reason, i don't want the dude to be too distracting (imagine a girl getting ****ed by mickey mouse doing the mickey mouse voice the whole time, that would be hilarious but i doubt you'd get off lol)

Likewise if they're so ugly they actively gross you out to look at that can ruin the porn too by killing your boner as you have to see this fat balding old guy in the corner of your eye

Am I the only guy here on SS who thinks that hypergamy is a load of crap?

It can't be true simply because when a woman is in love, hypergamy is dead.
Hypergamy obviously exists because women are more likely to leave you for another man than men are to leave their wives imo.

It's basically the same thing, except getting a girl to run off with you and leave her husband is easier than a mistress/side hoe getting a dude to leave his wife, a dude cheating most likely wants side pvssy not a love story.

This is a huge chunk of how male and female jealousy works too, when your girlfriend fvcks someone else you're more likely to think that it's because you didn't satisfy her than that she literally fell for another guy, whereas women don't get that you can bang side pvssy on the weekends but still keep your monday to Friday girlfriend.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hypergamy in porn

meanwhile Dani Daniels is a 9/10 married to a 3/10



He kind of looks like he could fvck chit up and have a good time though. That's kind of the limiting common theme you see holding alot of guys back here. The guy looks like he could fall right in line with the zero fvcks given crowd, when it comes down to it. If I had to attribute 9/10 of my past lays, it would be solely for that reason.
 

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Am I the only guy here on SS who thinks that hypergamy is a load of crap?

It can't be true simply because when a woman is in love, hypergamy is dead.
"In love" is the state of the brain being awash with 3 chemicals: Dopamine, Serotonin and Norepinephrine. Natures reason for this is probably because it increases the chances of healthy reproduction. It take around 2 years for your brain to stop the over production of these chemicals, returning you back to normal state. By then the pregnancy has finished and child is no longer in its most vulnerable state. So with those chemicals that bond humans together so tightly gone, hypergamy is free to creep in because the female seeks better survival odds for her and the child and because nature wants her to reproduce with strongest partner as possible. It is also when the man is most likely to also look for other partners because nature wants reproduction.

Some couples do stay committed to each other beyond the 'in love' stage due to oxytocin and vasopressin chemicals in brain. Also because nature wants beta traits (less reproductive and less able to survive) out of the gene pool.

That's my take on it anyway.
 

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All these scientific terms is giving me a headache.

I'm a trained engineer, I prefer simple and straight to the point.

Remember, I'm speaking from experiences with women that I had the privilege to cohabit or were in an extended LTR.

To claim that all women r continously seeking out a higher status man is just plain idiotic and a rather convenient excuse men uses to describe their own overall idiotic character + failures. You boys need to buck up and be a fvcking man to admit ur own shortcomings.

Now don't be mad or get emotional, listen 1st and then use ur nerd brain to process it slowlyyyy. I'll use layman terms for easy understanding;

Women r allowed 2 hv standards in dating/marrying and once those standards r met they tend to stick around, often for a very long time - which the bond between them will be so intertwined that it'll be so fvcking hard to uproot.

Does anyone here disagree? I'm sure some of you r gonna google or YouTube some chemical nerd explanation or an even nerd-ier new age ideology, don't waste ur fvcking time, I'm a living prove of never had the experience of being dumped for another supposedly higher status men and there's countless of higher status men being dumped or cheated on by their wife's. So fvck ur noob ideology, you can't sell noob ideology to a man who has lived a life of sin, lies, debauchery etc etc etc...

All of my past relationships ended, every single one of it ended because I allowed it, facilitate it, encouraged it, ignored it, didn't work on it, cheated on it etc etc etc. I found out I either consciously or unconsciously wanted it. Yes I admit it and so should you all who had women leave or have dumped women by the curb.

Is it so hard to take responsibility?

Or do you not find it cowardly to blame women for all ur troubles ?
 

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To claim that all women r continously seeking out a higher status man is just plain idiotic and a rather convenient excuse men uses to describe their own overall idiotic character + failures. You boys need to buck up and be a fvcking man to admit ur own shortcomings.

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All of my past relationships ended, every single one of it ended because I allowed it, facilitate it, encouraged it, ignored it, didn't work on it, cheated on it etc etc etc. I found out I either consciously or unconsciously wanted it. Yes I admit it and so should you all who had women leave or have dumped women by the curb.
I think childless women (although nowadays, even single mommies are starting to do this) are always doing "sexual market assessment", and becomes interested in a man that seems to be at the upper range of achievable (i.e., in terms of genetics, money, status, etc.) as per her initial assessment - but then after being with the man for a short while, she does a follow-on assessment, which includes, obviously, a good assessment on personality, compatibility, etc., and then decides to either bolt then & there, or stick around but be in the state of "I'll stick around until there is a better deal".

As for myself, I always get dumped after 2 months :mad:, which I attribute to being able to run good initial game, and somehow catching women at a point where they are more interested in connecting than usual, but ultimately not being able to keep up the shtick. I think part of this is that I just need to be more of an a33hole with women once I am with them.

Regardless, the point of my post was that porn actresses should be the least picky, but they seem to be as picky as anyone else.
 

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All these scientific terms is giving me a headache.

I'm a trained engineer, I prefer simple and straight to the point.

Remember, I'm speaking from experiences with women that I had the privilege to cohabit or were in an extended LTR.

To claim that all women r continously seeking out a higher status man is just plain idiotic and a rather convenient excuse men uses to describe their own overall idiotic character + failures. You boys need to buck up and be a fvcking man to admit ur own shortcomings.

Now don't be mad or get emotional, listen 1st and then use ur nerd brain to process it slowlyyyy. I'll use layman terms for easy understanding;

Women r allowed 2 hv standards in dating/marrying and once those standards r met they tend to stick around, often for a very long time - which the bond between them will be so intertwined that it'll be so fvcking hard to uproot.

Does anyone here disagree? I'm sure some of you r gonna google or YouTube some chemical nerd explanation or an even nerd-ier new age ideology, don't waste ur fvcking time, I'm a living prove of never had the experience of being dumped for another supposedly higher status men and there's countless of higher status men being dumped or cheated on by their wife's. So fvck ur noob ideology, you can't sell noob ideology to a man who has lived a life of sin, lies, debauchery etc etc etc...

All of my past relationships ended, every single one of it ended because I allowed it, facilitate it, encouraged it, ignored it, didn't work on it, cheated on it etc etc etc. I found out I either consciously or unconsciously wanted it. Yes I admit it and so should you all who had women leave or have dumped women by the curb.

Is it so hard to take responsibility?

Or do you not find it cowardly to blame women for all ur troubles ?

I like to approach things with the simplest of logic. Usually the simplest of logic provides the correct answer so long as it's not too simple.

I said there are those women who do seek out hypergamy and those that don't, using very simplistic reasoning that a 12 year old could understand, to which you made a 'simple and to the point' response which was twice as long as what I had written. Lol

Maybe read things properly and think more.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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All these scientific terms is giving me a headache.

I'm a trained engineer, I prefer simple and straight to the point.

Remember, I'm speaking from experiences with women that I had the privilege to cohabit or were in an extended LTR.

To claim that all women r continously seeking out a higher status man is just plain idiotic and a rather convenient excuse men uses to describe their own overall idiotic character + failures. You boys need to buck up and be a fvcking man to admit ur own shortcomings.

Now don't be mad or get emotional, listen 1st and then use ur nerd brain to process it slowlyyyy. I'll use layman terms for easy understanding;

Women r allowed 2 hv standards in dating/marrying and once those standards r met they tend to stick around, often for a very long time - which the bond between them will be so intertwined that it'll be so fvcking hard to uproot.

Does anyone here disagree? I'm sure some of you r gonna google or YouTube some chemical nerd explanation or an even nerd-ier new age ideology, don't waste ur fvcking time, I'm a living prove of never had the experience of being dumped for another supposedly higher status men and there's countless of higher status men being dumped or cheated on by their wife's. So fvck ur noob ideology, you can't sell noob ideology to a man who has lived a life of sin, lies, debauchery etc etc etc...

All of my past relationships ended, every single one of it ended because I allowed it, facilitate it, encouraged it, ignored it, didn't work on it, cheated on it etc etc etc. I found out I either consciously or unconsciously wanted it. Yes I admit it and so should you all who had women leave or have dumped women by the curb.

Is it so hard to take responsibility?

Or do you not find it cowardly to blame women for all ur troubles ?
“Alright, listen up, this is Sgt. Spaz. All the rest of you cowards need to man the Fvck up and become a trained engineer like me. Then all of you nerd boys will know that hypergamy does not exist. Now drop and give me 20!”

-Augustus-
 

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“Alright, listen up, this is Sgt. Spaz. All the rest of you cowards need to man the Fvck up and become a trained engineer like me. Then all of you nerd boys will know that hypergamy does not exist. Now drop and give me 20!”

-Augustus-
Of course u r not at fault, it's always ur ex hypergamy at play.

My bad. I'm so sorry buddy.
 

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I like to approach things with the simplest of logic. Usually the simplest of logic provides the correct answer so long as it's not too simple.

I said there are those women who do seek out hypergamy and those that don't, using very simplistic reasoning that a 12 year old could understand, to which you made a 'simple and to the point' response which was twice as long as what I had written. Lol

Maybe read things properly and think more.
I'm just too dumb to 2 be at nerd level and explain it in a nerd way.

Dumb people r rather long winded to get across what they r trying to convey.

And I do hope by acknowledging u r a smartie 2 shoes boost ur credibility with regards towards ur skills with women.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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