"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is hiding the same as lying?

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This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JonnyD123 said:
This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?
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Yeah, she lied to you. You don't just sleep with a friend(s) multiple times.
 
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Lying by omission.

Not really a difference between that and blatantly lying, the intent to deceive (or mask deception) is the same.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Urbanyst said:
Why does it matter?

Every woman you meet will have sexual experience unless she is 12. Get used to it.
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Did you even read what I wrote? I didn't expect her to be daddy's little virgin angel.
 
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JonnyD123 said:
Did you even read what I wrote? I didn't expect her to be daddy's little virgin angel.
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I did.

I'm trying to tell you that its silly to worry about a woman's sexual history and who she slept with and who she didn't. That is one area where I don't ask and don't tell. Women will never be honest about that with you anyway.
 
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JonnyD123 said:
This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?
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You're displaying insecurity. This will drive her interest down.

She has a past. You have a past. Dating someone for 2 months, she doesn't have to tell you anything she doesn't want to and neither do you.
 
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JonnyD123 said:
This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?
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she was certainly lying to you, the problem is that she wanted to hide the nature of her relationship with those guys, not that she banged them.

it's a huge red flag that she wants to keep it secret from you what she has done with the guys she spends time with
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's always safe to assume that if a chick as a close male friend at some point she fvcked him, or he wants to fvck her. This sort of thing does not bother me because I always expect this from women... but if this bugs you then dump her, because she isn't fun for you anymore.

Bottom-line when a chick STOPS being entertaining and STARTS being work, dump her, even if you think you love her. Life is too short to worry about sh!t like this.
 
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RangerMIke said:
It's always safe to assume that if a chick as a close male friend at some point she fvcked him, or he wants to fvck her.

Bottom-line when a chick STOPS being entertaining and STARTS being work, dump her, even if you think you love her. Life is too short to worry about sh!t like this.
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Any normal guy who is willing to invest time in a women wants to sleep with her - ever! Absolutely right.

Like I say: bring fun to my life or fcuk off!
 
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