"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is having strong passion for dance bad thing?

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Ok, as it goes I never dance or tried until two years ago, I thought it was my biggest weakness, and my shyness would never allow me to get over the hump.

However, it all changed on one eventful marriage party, when my Uncle who pulled me out to dance with the crowd, it was daunting at first, and then I started to enjoy the stage, all of a sudden the fear was gone, while I still watched my other cousins glued to their chair not wanting to dance, thats when I along with my brother took first steps of dance.

Since then, I've taken dance lessons in Tango, Salsa, Hiphop, Swing and merengue, I took so many dance lessons that It became the thing for me, and I enjoyed every moment of it, its like putting a kid in a candy shop...

So, its now and present, I just arrived from India, and saw their fusion dance style when I was there, , and now I'm learnning all the moves on my own from computer offcourse, and have been practicing nonstop, along with other things off course, still how important is dancing? And is making dancing a central theme to my lifestyle a bad thing?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Did someone say tell you it was bad? I'm not sure how else you could get that idea. I think girls love that sort of thing. I'm like you were two years ago, though. I feel like I could never, ever do that stuff.
 

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No, its not a bad thing at all. Any major city will have dance clubs or certain nights at a club targeted for a certain style of dance. Great way to meet women and stay in shape. Same with Yoga.
 

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women love dancing.

my girlfriend doesn't like dancing but I know so many girls that LOVE dancing.

I meet plenty of them and plus you get to stay close to girls. Its a lot of fun for me plus it is a great trick to have.

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I haven't gotten bad feedbacks

FireOnTheMountain said:
Did someone say tell you it was bad? I'm not sure how else you could get that idea. I think girls love that sort of thing. I'm like you were two years ago, though. I feel like I could never, ever do that stuff.
but you get what you focus on, and I am very much dedicated to improving my dancing style these days.
still, I've chosen a path that should be over with someone my age, as many young people get tired of club scene by the time they get 25 something in age, while I don't particularly like clubs, I do appreciate good social events though, where I could go dance, I just hope that the talent I'm accumulating is appreciated by people around me.....
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm a dancer who started late like you and it's awesome!!! Bad? If that's bad, nothing else is good! I've made a lot of friends and met a lot of women through dancing. A good dancer immediately gets high social status.
 

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It means you have high levels of estrogen. You *****


now iron my shirt
 

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Being passionate about anything is good. Dancing included.

However, I would advise against going to clubs just to show off your stuff. Calibrate to the level of whoever you're dancing with. Girls on the floor that look really incredible at dancing can easily scare off guys who may be willing to dance but feel like they aren't good enough to keep up. Same with girls.

Make sure you are there to dance with women, not dance to show off. It will not impress anybody (unless there's an equally good girl there, but in that case she very well may just dance with you because she enjoys it, and not because of any particular attraction to you).
 

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Bonafide said:
It means you have high levels of estrogen. You *****


now iron my shirt
Probably. We dancers catch some of that nasty estrogen stuff after drilling estrogen-filled women night after night.

marinetti said:
However, I would advise against going to clubs just to show off your stuff. Calibrate to the level of whoever you're dancing with. Girls on the floor that look really incredible at dancing can easily scare off guys who may be willing to dance but feel like they aren't good enough to keep up. Same with girls.
Good advice. One key rule for being a good leader (the guy) in dancing is to make your partner look good. I still "show off" when I dance with a girl who isn't good at dancing, but in a way to make her shine.

Another related golden rule is: "Dance to express, not to impress."
 

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Jitterbug said:
Probably. We dancers catch some of that nasty estrogen stuff after drilling estrogen-filled women night after night.



Good advice. One key rule for being a good leader (the guy) in dancing is to make your partner look good. I still "show off" when I dance with a girl who isn't good at dancing, but in a way to make her shine.

Another related golden rule is: "Dance to express, not to impress."
Proof that you get no vaggy...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bonafide said:
Proof that you get no vaggy...
Dance guys get drowned in vaggy. I should know..

Latin dance goes like this - You walk on to a dance floor with a complete stranger - usually a fit sexy woman . For the next three minutes you feel her and touch her and put your hands on most parts of her body - at the end of the dance she smiles and says "thank you " .. ya dig ?

You guys want to see some top dancers - the Russians are awesome Latin Dancers , the best in the world .

Go to YouTube and search for "Slavik and Elena" or "Max and Yulia "

See ya'all at Arthur Murray - ha !
 

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Canadien said:
Ok, as it goes I never dance or tried until two years ago, I thought it was my biggest weakness, and my shyness would never allow me to get over the hump.

However, it all changed on one eventful marriage party, when my Uncle who pulled me out to dance with the crowd, it was daunting at first, and then I started to enjoy the stage, all of a sudden the fear was gone, while I still watched my other cousins glued to their chair not wanting to dance, thats when I along with my brother took first steps of dance.

Since then, I've taken dance lessons in Tango, Salsa, Hiphop, Swing and merengue, I took so many dance lessons that It became the thing for me, and I enjoyed every moment of it, its like putting a kid in a candy shop...

So, its now and present, I just arrived from India, and saw their fusion dance style when I was there, , and now I'm learnning all the moves on my own from computer offcourse, and have been practicing nonstop, along with other things off course, still how important is dancing? And is making dancing a central theme to my lifestyle a bad thing?
One of the advice I tend to give to people is to take dance classes.

1- It will teach you a great skill
2- It will improve your balance
3- It will impove your health
4- You will meet women
5- Your confidence will improve considerably.

Should it be a "central theme" of your lifestyle? That's up to you. As long as you have some balance, I guess everything else is great.
 

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It's a good thing to have passions in life. Dancing is a great one.
 

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I'm either gonna join the salsa club at my new school or go to the club in town that teaches it for free. I'm down for that, and if I'm too worn-out from the cycling team, it's not like they'll make me attend the salsa meetings.
 

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Bonafide ur a moron.

P.S. your body movements can give women a clue about your testosterone levels. Men with low testosterone - naturally, their bodies won't allow them to move the way a person with high testosterone can move.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

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dancing is awesome.

what a way to express yourself!!!!!!!

gets mad respect and you can bet the girls want what you got.
 
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