"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is having strong passion for dance bad thing?

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Ok, as it goes I never dance or tried until two years ago, I thought it was my biggest weakness, and my shyness would never allow me to get over the hump.

However, it all changed on one eventful marriage party, when my Uncle who pulled me out to dance with the crowd, it was daunting at first, and then I started to enjoy the stage, all of a sudden the fear was gone, while I still watched my other cousins glued to their chair not wanting to dance, thats when I along with my brother took first steps of dance.

Since then, I've taken dance lessons in Tango, Salsa, Hiphop, Swing and merengue, I took so many dance lessons that It became the thing for me, and I enjoyed every moment of it, its like putting a kid in a candy shop...

So, its now and present, I just arrived from India, and saw their fusion dance style when I was there, , and now I'm learnning all the moves on my own from computer offcourse, and have been practicing nonstop, along with other things off course, still how important is dancing? And is making dancing a central theme to my lifestyle a bad thing?
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Did someone say tell you it was bad? I'm not sure how else you could get that idea. I think girls love that sort of thing. I'm like you were two years ago, though. I feel like I could never, ever do that stuff.
 

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No, its not a bad thing at all. Any major city will have dance clubs or certain nights at a club targeted for a certain style of dance. Great way to meet women and stay in shape. Same with Yoga.
 

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women love dancing.

my girlfriend doesn't like dancing but I know so many girls that LOVE dancing.

I meet plenty of them and plus you get to stay close to girls. Its a lot of fun for me plus it is a great trick to have.

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I haven't gotten bad feedbacks

FireOnTheMountain said:
Did someone say tell you it was bad? I'm not sure how else you could get that idea. I think girls love that sort of thing. I'm like you were two years ago, though. I feel like I could never, ever do that stuff.
but you get what you focus on, and I am very much dedicated to improving my dancing style these days.
still, I've chosen a path that should be over with someone my age, as many young people get tired of club scene by the time they get 25 something in age, while I don't particularly like clubs, I do appreciate good social events though, where I could go dance, I just hope that the talent I'm accumulating is appreciated by people around me.....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm a dancer who started late like you and it's awesome!!! Bad? If that's bad, nothing else is good! I've made a lot of friends and met a lot of women through dancing. A good dancer immediately gets high social status.
 

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It means you have high levels of estrogen. You *****


now iron my shirt
 

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Being passionate about anything is good. Dancing included.

However, I would advise against going to clubs just to show off your stuff. Calibrate to the level of whoever you're dancing with. Girls on the floor that look really incredible at dancing can easily scare off guys who may be willing to dance but feel like they aren't good enough to keep up. Same with girls.

Make sure you are there to dance with women, not dance to show off. It will not impress anybody (unless there's an equally good girl there, but in that case she very well may just dance with you because she enjoys it, and not because of any particular attraction to you).
 

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Bonafide said:
It means you have high levels of estrogen. You *****


now iron my shirt
Probably. We dancers catch some of that nasty estrogen stuff after drilling estrogen-filled women night after night.

marinetti said:
However, I would advise against going to clubs just to show off your stuff. Calibrate to the level of whoever you're dancing with. Girls on the floor that look really incredible at dancing can easily scare off guys who may be willing to dance but feel like they aren't good enough to keep up. Same with girls.
Good advice. One key rule for being a good leader (the guy) in dancing is to make your partner look good. I still "show off" when I dance with a girl who isn't good at dancing, but in a way to make her shine.

Another related golden rule is: "Dance to express, not to impress."
 

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Jitterbug said:
Probably. We dancers catch some of that nasty estrogen stuff after drilling estrogen-filled women night after night.



Good advice. One key rule for being a good leader (the guy) in dancing is to make your partner look good. I still "show off" when I dance with a girl who isn't good at dancing, but in a way to make her shine.

Another related golden rule is: "Dance to express, not to impress."
Proof that you get no vaggy...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bonafide said:
Proof that you get no vaggy...
Dance guys get drowned in vaggy. I should know..

Latin dance goes like this - You walk on to a dance floor with a complete stranger - usually a fit sexy woman . For the next three minutes you feel her and touch her and put your hands on most parts of her body - at the end of the dance she smiles and says "thank you " .. ya dig ?

You guys want to see some top dancers - the Russians are awesome Latin Dancers , the best in the world .

Go to YouTube and search for "Slavik and Elena" or "Max and Yulia "

See ya'all at Arthur Murray - ha !
 

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Canadien said:
Ok, as it goes I never dance or tried until two years ago, I thought it was my biggest weakness, and my shyness would never allow me to get over the hump.

However, it all changed on one eventful marriage party, when my Uncle who pulled me out to dance with the crowd, it was daunting at first, and then I started to enjoy the stage, all of a sudden the fear was gone, while I still watched my other cousins glued to their chair not wanting to dance, thats when I along with my brother took first steps of dance.

Since then, I've taken dance lessons in Tango, Salsa, Hiphop, Swing and merengue, I took so many dance lessons that It became the thing for me, and I enjoyed every moment of it, its like putting a kid in a candy shop...

So, its now and present, I just arrived from India, and saw their fusion dance style when I was there, , and now I'm learnning all the moves on my own from computer offcourse, and have been practicing nonstop, along with other things off course, still how important is dancing? And is making dancing a central theme to my lifestyle a bad thing?
One of the advice I tend to give to people is to take dance classes.

1- It will teach you a great skill
2- It will improve your balance
3- It will impove your health
4- You will meet women
5- Your confidence will improve considerably.

Should it be a "central theme" of your lifestyle? That's up to you. As long as you have some balance, I guess everything else is great.
 

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It's a good thing to have passions in life. Dancing is a great one.
 

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I'm either gonna join the salsa club at my new school or go to the club in town that teaches it for free. I'm down for that, and if I'm too worn-out from the cycling team, it's not like they'll make me attend the salsa meetings.
 

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Bonafide ur a moron.

P.S. your body movements can give women a clue about your testosterone levels. Men with low testosterone - naturally, their bodies won't allow them to move the way a person with high testosterone can move.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dancing is awesome.

what a way to express yourself!!!!!!!

gets mad respect and you can bet the girls want what you got.
 
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