"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is feminisim the problem here?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Razor Sharp
Senior Don Juan
No, the REAL problem is that the title of that article is hilarious
:crackup:
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No. How could it be? It has to do with children wanting to know who their father is when they turn 18. There aren't even women involved!Plinco said:
Explain yourself. Why even this question?
spider_007
Master Don Juan
Yes, but Germans and Japanese have QUALITY....Not sure if our gene pool really has that.
That is a stupid law.
I don't know about you but if I was one of these kids I really wouldn't want to meet and shake the hand of a man who jerked himself into a cup in order for me to exist.
'gee dad that is a mighty firm handshake, i knew i was a chip off the old block'
I don't know about you but if I was one of these kids I really wouldn't want to meet and shake the hand of a man who jerked himself into a cup in order for me to exist.
'gee dad that is a mighty firm handshake, i knew i was a chip off the old block'
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.