Roly
Senior Don Juan
Lets debate this. Father's Day is actually one of the few days where Men are praised, pampered and appreciated. But then again, I've been seeing a lot of these " AFC" commercials lately i.e. the father looking like a dumbass.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is Father's Day a DJish event?
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backbreaker
Master Don Juan
i hate fathers day.. because it's my birthday. It's like when your birthday is the day before Christmas,... you never really get to celebrate it. I always end up doing something for my bad.. not that there is anything wrong with it, but I hardly ever get the day to myself.
BacardiGuy
Senior Don Juan
Father's day is always the 3rd Sunday in June, so it can't always be on your birthday...backbreaker said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
it's usually close enough to my birthday, just like say your birthday is on thanksgiving.
I was actually born on fathers day however
I was actually born on fathers day however
ConantheLibertarian
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Is Father's Day DJ-ish? It would be, if not for all the AFC suckers who got roped into marriage by the woman, or got married and had kids to conform to perceived societal norms.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
oh come on...
fathers day is suppose to be a tribute, an honor to all the fathers who worked hard all year to be there, to be providers.
its for the wife and the kids to show their love, and eventually the grandkids come along and play a part in it.
its a day when a father isn't suppose to have to do any chores, he is suppose to have his family waiting on him and showing their appreciation.
its one day of the year that you're suppose to get whatever you want for supper without someone in the family yelling "BUT I don't like that" .
a father is not less of a man if he celebrates it, he's the same guy with his favorite dinner watching his favorite tv show uninterrupted and some presents to boot.
fathers day is suppose to be a tribute, an honor to all the fathers who worked hard all year to be there, to be providers.
its for the wife and the kids to show their love, and eventually the grandkids come along and play a part in it.
its a day when a father isn't suppose to have to do any chores, he is suppose to have his family waiting on him and showing their appreciation.
its one day of the year that you're suppose to get whatever you want for supper without someone in the family yelling "BUT I don't like that" .
a father is not less of a man if he celebrates it, he's the same guy with his favorite dinner watching his favorite tv show uninterrupted and some presents to boot.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I can't say if it's DJ or not (whatever that means for a guy who is a father), but I always see a marked difference in attitude between mother's day and father's day now that I've been one for 9 years now. I was listening to a local talk radio show on Friday that was opening lines for callers to express their gratitude (such as it was) for their fathers - as they'd done the previously in May for mother's day and damn near every caller had the same "fukk you dad!" story about how sh!tty their lives were because of their father's influence or his lack thereof. One girl had called in to bleat out her story about how her dad had molested her once 30 years ago and for the last 10 years she'd sent him a father's day card with a big 'FU' on it to tell him she'd never forgive him. Another guy called in to say how horrible his dad was for leaving his mom and how he sends her a father's day card because he thinks she fulfilled a masculine role for him that he owes some gratitude for.
Father's Day is a slap in the face for me now - a big "fukk you" Mr. Man - a reminder that masculinity is devalued and debased, and we ought to just take it like a man and get over it. Personally, when I hear cry stories like this, the more I hear how crappy fathers perceptions are today only makes me want to be that much better a father to my daughter, and I can't wait until I've got a grandson to help raise as well.
Father's Day is a slap in the face for me now - a big "fukk you" Mr. Man - a reminder that masculinity is devalued and debased, and we ought to just take it like a man and get over it. Personally, when I hear cry stories like this, the more I hear how crappy fathers perceptions are today only makes me want to be that much better a father to my daughter, and I can't wait until I've got a grandson to help raise as well.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
my dad and i don't even bother calling each other. he knows I love him and i know the same. I don't need a day to signify that.