Roly
Senior Don Juan
Lets debate this. Father's Day is actually one of the few days where Men are praised, pampered and appreciated. But then again, I've been seeing a lot of these " AFC" commercials lately i.e. the father looking like a dumbass.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is Father's Day a DJish event?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PrinceBeavis
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Yep! The white, christian, hetreo, American male is the last "fair game" target.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
i hate fathers day.. because it's my birthday. It's like when your birthday is the day before Christmas,... you never really get to celebrate it. I always end up doing something for my bad.. not that there is anything wrong with it, but I hardly ever get the day to myself.
BacardiGuy
Senior Don Juan
Father's day is always the 3rd Sunday in June, so it can't always be on your birthday...backbreaker said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
it's usually close enough to my birthday, just like say your birthday is on thanksgiving.
I was actually born on fathers day however
I was actually born on fathers day however
ConantheLibertarian
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Is Father's Day DJ-ish? It would be, if not for all the AFC suckers who got roped into marriage by the woman, or got married and had kids to conform to perceived societal norms.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
oh come on...
fathers day is suppose to be a tribute, an honor to all the fathers who worked hard all year to be there, to be providers.
its for the wife and the kids to show their love, and eventually the grandkids come along and play a part in it.
its a day when a father isn't suppose to have to do any chores, he is suppose to have his family waiting on him and showing their appreciation.
its one day of the year that you're suppose to get whatever you want for supper without someone in the family yelling "BUT I don't like that" .
a father is not less of a man if he celebrates it, he's the same guy with his favorite dinner watching his favorite tv show uninterrupted and some presents to boot.
fathers day is suppose to be a tribute, an honor to all the fathers who worked hard all year to be there, to be providers.
its for the wife and the kids to show their love, and eventually the grandkids come along and play a part in it.
its a day when a father isn't suppose to have to do any chores, he is suppose to have his family waiting on him and showing their appreciation.
its one day of the year that you're suppose to get whatever you want for supper without someone in the family yelling "BUT I don't like that" .
a father is not less of a man if he celebrates it, he's the same guy with his favorite dinner watching his favorite tv show uninterrupted and some presents to boot.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I can't say if it's DJ or not (whatever that means for a guy who is a father), but I always see a marked difference in attitude between mother's day and father's day now that I've been one for 9 years now. I was listening to a local talk radio show on Friday that was opening lines for callers to express their gratitude (such as it was) for their fathers - as they'd done the previously in May for mother's day and damn near every caller had the same "fukk you dad!" story about how sh!tty their lives were because of their father's influence or his lack thereof. One girl had called in to bleat out her story about how her dad had molested her once 30 years ago and for the last 10 years she'd sent him a father's day card with a big 'FU' on it to tell him she'd never forgive him. Another guy called in to say how horrible his dad was for leaving his mom and how he sends her a father's day card because he thinks she fulfilled a masculine role for him that he owes some gratitude for.
Father's Day is a slap in the face for me now - a big "fukk you" Mr. Man - a reminder that masculinity is devalued and debased, and we ought to just take it like a man and get over it. Personally, when I hear cry stories like this, the more I hear how crappy fathers perceptions are today only makes me want to be that much better a father to my daughter, and I can't wait until I've got a grandson to help raise as well.
Father's Day is a slap in the face for me now - a big "fukk you" Mr. Man - a reminder that masculinity is devalued and debased, and we ought to just take it like a man and get over it. Personally, when I hear cry stories like this, the more I hear how crappy fathers perceptions are today only makes me want to be that much better a father to my daughter, and I can't wait until I've got a grandson to help raise as well.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
my dad and i don't even bother calling each other. he knows I love him and i know the same. I don't need a day to signify that.