"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is Facebook and Texting Killing Game As We Know It?

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If talking to a girl face to face were equally as convenient as IM, texting, social media, etc., which would you opt for?

Your answer is what makes you a chump or not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HeyPachuco! said:
Your value is dictated before you've even started, when girls ask you for your Facebook. If you don't have it, you're seen as weird, mysterious, creepy - not in a challenge sense. Especially if you've cold approached some random girl, its much easier for her to decide whether she wants you inside her on her own terms, than yours. If you do have an FB account, you're quickly screened. It's a limbo-dance, and if you can't dance, you're booed off the stage.

Its just a quicker screening process to see if you're a pre-selected desired male. Your value and whether shes interested is not concluded after a date anymore. It's pretty much before that now. Short answer for OP, yes and no. Guys who've got their sh*t together can have some awesome profiles, doing cool stuff that beat the average commonplace dude. Average guys who haven't will simply be discarded one way or another and end up writing a flakestory for us on the board.
Just had a 20-year old I met off a dating site whom I've been texting and chatting on the phone with send me this:

"You have to add me on fb before i hang out with you lol"
 

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Texted her back with: "I only add ppl I know so guess it's not happening then"

No response. Typical.

Basically, she's already looking for ways to dismiss you. You've already been screened out before the initial interview.

Now could this have happened even 5 years ago? Nah, I would've taken her out for drinks, regaled her with my wit and charm, and banged her.
 

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You guys need to stop being so uptight with this Facebook thing.

Also, you can add people to your Facebook without giving them access to every piece of info on you.

Now could this have happened even 5 years ago? Nah, I would've taken her out for drinks, regaled her with my wit and charm, and banged her.
Yeah right, with your attitude, we believe you.
 

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Chronocidal said:
- If the immediate local gender ratio is skewed against the women, wouldn't refusing "outsider" men be an unaffordable tactic given that their own environment doesn't supply enough men to match the demand?
I want you to spend 10 minutes on this experiment.

* Ask a guy how many girls he runs into everyday he'd find attractive. Say, out of 20.

* Ask a girl the same question, but reverse the sex.

Do the same with a few more guys & girls.

You'll figure out the answer to your question.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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