"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is Facebook and Texting Killing Game As We Know It?

Rollo Tomassi

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If talking to a girl face to face were equally as convenient as IM, texting, social media, etc., which would you opt for?

Your answer is what makes you a chump or not.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HeyPachuco! said:
Your value is dictated before you've even started, when girls ask you for your Facebook. If you don't have it, you're seen as weird, mysterious, creepy - not in a challenge sense. Especially if you've cold approached some random girl, its much easier for her to decide whether she wants you inside her on her own terms, than yours. If you do have an FB account, you're quickly screened. It's a limbo-dance, and if you can't dance, you're booed off the stage.

Its just a quicker screening process to see if you're a pre-selected desired male. Your value and whether shes interested is not concluded after a date anymore. It's pretty much before that now. Short answer for OP, yes and no. Guys who've got their sh*t together can have some awesome profiles, doing cool stuff that beat the average commonplace dude. Average guys who haven't will simply be discarded one way or another and end up writing a flakestory for us on the board.
Just had a 20-year old I met off a dating site whom I've been texting and chatting on the phone with send me this:

"You have to add me on fb before i hang out with you lol"
 

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Texted her back with: "I only add ppl I know so guess it's not happening then"

No response. Typical.

Basically, she's already looking for ways to dismiss you. You've already been screened out before the initial interview.

Now could this have happened even 5 years ago? Nah, I would've taken her out for drinks, regaled her with my wit and charm, and banged her.
 

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You guys need to stop being so uptight with this Facebook thing.

Also, you can add people to your Facebook without giving them access to every piece of info on you.

Now could this have happened even 5 years ago? Nah, I would've taken her out for drinks, regaled her with my wit and charm, and banged her.
Yeah right, with your attitude, we believe you.
 

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Chronocidal said:
- If the immediate local gender ratio is skewed against the women, wouldn't refusing "outsider" men be an unaffordable tactic given that their own environment doesn't supply enough men to match the demand?
I want you to spend 10 minutes on this experiment.

* Ask a guy how many girls he runs into everyday he'd find attractive. Say, out of 20.

* Ask a girl the same question, but reverse the sex.

Do the same with a few more guys & girls.

You'll figure out the answer to your question.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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