"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is Doc Love worth the money?

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Hellow fellow DJs from all over the world!

After my recent (second) broke up with my ex-gf, I decided that I DO HAVE TO CHANGE, NOW. No more AFC for me!

Searching for informations, I found Doc Love. (yes, he is a lot like Anti-Dump, hehe. And he has a pick-up too! :D)

Is his material worth the cash?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Search the forum for "system" and "doc love." There's countless threads about this. Most of his detractors never actually purchased his book and believe that all of his information can be found in his articles, as if he would give the good stuff away for free (cheap b@stards).

Anyway, what worked for me (at least a few years ago) was a combination of Doc's System and David d'Angelo's Double Your Dating.
 

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I have the Double Your Dating ebook.

What I find strange is that some of David DeAngelo tips are told to be AFC on SoSuave. I just get confused... :p
 

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Originally posted by djbr
I have the Double Your Dating ebook.

What I find strange is that some of David DeAngelo tips are told to be AFC on SoSuave. I just get confused... :p
Like what specifically? It could just be confusion. Many guys in the forum have the same problem because they feel that being a DJ is very cut and dry while actually a good DJ is extremely dynamic.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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He just "bend over" more.

He accepts emails, for example.

He puts up with games. In fact, he says many things about "passing" them. Here many people say things like "if they start to game, tell her to jack off".

Maybe it's me over-interpreting (HAHA). :D

I just get tired and tired of reading. I NEED TO DO SOMETHING! :p

(oh lazy people... oh me.)
 

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Originally posted by djbr
He just "bend over" more.

He accepts emails, for example.

He puts up with games. In fact, he says many things about "passing" them. Here many people say things like "if they start to game, tell her to jack off".

Maybe it's me over-interpreting (HAHA). :D

I just get tired and tired of reading. I NEED TO DO SOMETHING! :p

(oh lazy people... oh me.)
You should understand that most of the people in the forum are still pissed off from past experiences. They haven't come to closure with them and tend to 'react' based on their own personal emotions and not by what actually works.

Here are some examples of things that work for me that most aspiring DJs would denounce.

  1. I successfully sarge on-line.
  2. I send emails.
  3. I sarge women in clubs
  4. I don't feel that getting a telephone number right off the bat is that important nor necessary.
  5. I don't feel that one is 'rejected' just because they didn't connect with a woman.
  6. I feel that social proof is overrated.
  7. I succeed without using '****y/funny." I use confident/funny.
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    You hit upon what you really need to do, get out and actually find out what works for you. To be successful as a DJ you need to create your own persona, your own DJ identity. It can have root in the ideas and methods prescribed by this board but it upon you to create what you would like to project upon the world.
 
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