"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My dad was a DJ. He banged a good share. My cousin (an ugly ****er) has ****ed so many chicks. Sounds like I have the genes, right? WRONG.

I'm so ****ing lost. I think I have a psychological disorder sometimes. For instance, this freshman girl that went to my middle school (I'm a Junior), clearly likes me. Or liked me. I knew it. She knew it. I liked her back. I see her every day after E period. She walks one way, and I walk the opposite way. We glance eyes at each other. You know what I've said to her? I stopped in front of her and said "Hey, did you go to my middle school", she walked around me not knowing I was talking to her till she walked past me and turned around saying "Yeah..." in that girly I have a crush on you voice. This was two weeks ago. She's had a crush on me since about December. I've probably blown it, because she doesn't look at me like she use to. I've told all my friends to ****ing egg me to do it. My friend keeps pushing me in front of her. Do I do it? No.



This is one only one instance of it. I've done this plenty of times. WTF can't I approach? I seriously think its a psychological thing. I know when I was a little kid I use to cry if my parents made me tell the waiter what I wanted to eat. I eventually outgrew that, but I'm still stuck in my shell. I've read the DJ Bible, read the Gunwitch method, read the Pook stuff, read the "for those who can't approach". I'm just missing the girls department in my brain.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sounds like you got some low confidence and self esteem. Find things that make you feel good about yourself. Work on just talking to girls. Don't try to talk to the hottest ones. I'm no Don Juan myself but i can say im no longer intimidated by pretty girls and this is coming from a a person that has had to fight anxiety and shyness his whole life. Quit thinking so much and just be yourself. Thats all anyone can ask for.
 
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Watch American Pie:The Naked Mile. It's OK to not be a DJ as long as you find true love...
 
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chaddycakes21 said:
Sounds like you got some low confidence and self esteem. Find things that make you feel good about yourself. Work on just talking to girls. Don't try to talk to the hottest ones. I'm no Don Juan myself but i can say im no longer intimidated by pretty girls and this is coming from a a person that has had to fight anxiety and shyness his whole life. Quit thinking so much and just be yourself. Thats all anyone can ask for.
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I agree. It sounds kind of mean, but start low and work your way up. Talk to the less attractive girls, or ones you've known for a while, or hell just start talking to your friend's girlfriends (not too much or your likely to get your arse kicked lol), every little bit will help you gain valuble experiance and more importantly, confidence.

I have problems too, but the best advice I can give, is to just go for it. Just try to reach a mental point where you don't care about rejection and just go for it. It sounds simple, but to someone like you or me, it's not easy.
But once you do it, you'll feel alot better
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Read Weapons of mass seduction, the 8 gates to overcome social phobias, that should help a lot :D!
 
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Buick said:
I agree. It sounds kind of mean, but start low and work your way up. Talk to the less attractive girls, or ones you've known for a while, or hell just start talking to your friend's girlfriends (not too much or your likely to get your arse kicked lol), every little bit will help you gain valuble experiance and more importantly, confidence.

I have problems too, but the best advice I can give, is to just go for it. Just try to reach a mental point where you don't care about rejection and just go for it. It sounds simple, but to someone like you or me, it's not easy.
But once you do it, you'll feel alot better
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I can talk to ok looking girls. But take today for example, I sit next to this really hot girl and for whatever reason, she hates me. Or at least always gives me an attitude, so I don't talk to her. Anyway, I sneezed, and it turns out I had a dry booger on my shirt. My friend later pointed it out, and said it so loud everyone could hear it. I was so embarrassed. I ended up sitting next to the girl during mass (I go to catholic school), and she giggled with her friend about not wanting to touch my hand. :( **** like that always just shoots my confidence. I'm usually a confident person, or at least I put on a confident look, but stuff like that is what kills me about high school. There's always something just to shoot your confidence.
 
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