Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I disagree with that.....for the most part. If you're going to wear cologne it is important that you get something that a) doesn't disgust you, and b) you like and thus reflecting your personality/tastes (if a scent really can reflect one's personality). However, for one thing, if you don't put too much of it on, you shouldn't even be able to smell it 20 minutes later. And more importantly, let's face it: guys wear cologne to attract girls. Unless perhaps you're just wearing a cologne for around the office to 'smell pleasant', you're wearing it to be more attractive, and in that case your'e wearing it for her, not for you.Originally posted by diablo
Getting a cologne because "girls like it" is a horrible idea. Get a scent that you like. You wear it, it's your personality, so why submit yourself to someone else's preference in what to smell like?
Originally posted by diablo
Getting a cologne because "girls like it" is a horrible idea. Get a scent that you like. You wear it, it's your personality, so why submit yourself to someone else's preference in what to smell like?
I disagree... im trying to attract women, not guys like me so Id rather smell like something that women like.
Take aqua di gio for example, if I didn't know it was so popular that is something that I would NEVER in a million years have picked out on my own, it smells like a fruitbasket and I would imagine that's not how a guy is supposed to smell... but of course women love it.
As far as Curve, it gets a ton of good reviews if you look around but I always imagined it to be really cheap/for kids... I used to have a friend back in 5th grade that swore by Curve so I just associate it with the cheapest crap around like Axe or whatever that the kids are wearing.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.