"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is CURVE Men by Liz Claiborne cologne spray any good? :
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ohiofutballa
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
AC/DC
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Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
And I've found that colonges like Burberry London and Lacoste are f***ing loved by girls. Hell, I like the Burberry cologne so much it almost makes me want to f*** myself. The Burberry perfume, incidentally, is one of the few perfumes that really turns me on.
LucidDreamer
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although maybe i'll give it another try.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
diablo
Master Don Juan
That being said, the only time I use Curve is to spray around the room to get rid of the smell of sex. Do a search on "cologne" for advice on what scents you might want to check out - or just go to a department store and smell the test bottles.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
It was good stuff...It smelled pretty decent and I got some compliments on it. I'll definately give my sister props for getting it for me
On a table of my favourite colonges, it would be in the Top 5. There are honestly some "better" ones out there, but it smells nice and it's pretty affordable - even for college students.
As Vince said, you've gotta find one you really like. For me, it's Hugo Boss, but I know some people who swear by Michael Jordan's cologne to this day. Hell, I used to get this stuff by Navy for a while that I don't really like anymore (mostly because I found something I consider better). It's all a personal choice - If ya like it, get it. If not, don't.
Go to the store, smell the sample, and make your decision.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
I disagree with that.....for the most part. If you're going to wear cologne it is important that you get something that a) doesn't disgust you, and b) you like and thus reflecting your personality/tastes (if a scent really can reflect one's personality). However, for one thing, if you don't put too much of it on, you shouldn't even be able to smell it 20 minutes later. And more importantly, let's face it: guys wear cologne to attract girls. Unless perhaps you're just wearing a cologne for around the office to 'smell pleasant', you're wearing it to be more attractive, and in that case your'e wearing it for her, not for you.
The way I tend to go about it is I find colognes I like, and from those I go with what seems to be liked the most.
If I went strictly by what fragrance I liked the most, I'd probably wear nothing but Armana Mania. But like I said, I can't even smell it on myself after a little while, and plus, it's hard to find cheap, even online.
I tend to try to wear a cologne that is attractive and sexy, yet wouldn't be considered overbearing or offfensive in a more formal or office-like environment. I learned that the hard way with Jean-Paul Gaultier when I was first getting into colognes, heh. The chicks f***ing love it, but damn, that's just not meant for going to class and whatnot.Oh, and another thing to keep in mind is that there are a lot of fragrances may appeal to this person or the other, but are hated by a lot of people. So when it comes to those ones, don't wear it just because you love it. Although I consider that more of a courtesy thing.
Anyway, I've been looking into getting a new cologne lately, something that's kinda light and fresh, nice for warmer weather (right now I wear Burberry London) and is liked by the ladies yet would be fairly okay if I walked into work with it. Two that I tried were Bulgari Blv and Lacoste pour homme. I'm kinda leaning towards Lacoste, although I really really liked how the Blv smells right off the bat. Kinda reminds me of vacations and swimming at the beach or the pool or something. When first smelled it on the test strip, I almost immediately thought it's what Kramer's "The Beach" would smell like,.
Oh yeah, I also tried Tommy Bahama, which is supposedly brand new, and thought it was kinda interesting. Almost smelled buttery or something.Any thoughts on those?
KillingTime
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
But I wear it. Couple weeks ago a girl commented on it, saying "I smelled good". I told her it was the natural musk of my body. She cracked up. Too bad she wasnt that good looking.
Unfortunately not enough women comment on it. I wear it daily.