"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is confidence everything?

wildchild

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How do you know when your becoming confident? What I tried to do when I was really struggling with girls was come on this site every day and read at least one tip, that means in one year you get 365 new weapons in your arsenal! I bet you can think of something you are really good at and feel at ease doing it. I wonder if you could actually emulate that confidence in everything you do or a least just when you talk to women. One thing that I feel helped me become more confident was taking up the sport of Thai Boxing, I never really took it up for that reason, I just wanted to get really fit find a new hobby and if someone told me a year and a half ago that by now I would have stepped in a ring and had a fight infront of 100s of people I would said their mad. When I first stepped into my Muay Thai class I felt sorta embarrised because I had no idea what to do and everyone else seemed to be doing really well at it. Now after doing it for just over a year I actually have people asking me for tips. Its the same with women, the more I talk to them, the better I get at it, its fun! I decided to write this post because I was really bored, hope this helps someone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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wildchild

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yeah i suppose you wouldnt know when your becoming confident its just something that happens.
 

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how do you know when your becoming confident
When you aren't questioning why you are doing something, or questioning the potential outcome of doing something.

It's like driving a car, when you aren't asking if you should make this turn, instead, you know you can or can't make the turn. It's not a matter of balls or being ****y, because you'll be on the receiving end of a car crash.

Instead, confidence is deprived from knowing what you are doing, knowing where and what to do at the right times and even when you mess up anyways. Like, starting to doing something like that turn and you go "Crap! I shouldn't of turned!", you have the knowledge to speed up or hammer the brakes.

Or, Experience + Control of the Situation = Confidence

Simple and sweet, what I just said is the reason why people confuse grabbing your balls and confidence.
 

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When that little vioce in the back of your head is quiet :D
 

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just stare in the mirror and when you find you are saying to yourself... "Damn, that is one hot guy..." you know you have it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Confidence is when you are attuned with yourself and not being pre-occupied thinking about how others may negatively perceive you.
 
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