"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Is cheating ok
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
1 You probably don't believe in Karma, this is an American thing, they probably have more Buddhists there than we do. Just remember I think Pol Pot died peacefully from a heart attack. Stalin also died from natural causes. Two of the biggest murderers in history. Where was the payback? They got reborn as an animal?
2 Plenty of guys without experience who marry their first GF get restless later and then they have a nice mid life crisis marriage bust up. So inexperience is not bliss.
3 Cheating is for sex what murder is for serial killers. Once you start, you probably keep going.
Like Azanon said, you can probably love any number of women at the same time, however, if you try it, I would suggest, at your age, that you may need to get rid of your current GF after a while. Choose a time when she is able to handle it.
I'm not looking for another lover just another screw. But if I found someone better it would be stupid to let it go. I dont think I'd be bothed juggling two lovers tho. I'd just tell her when she was ready.
Whatever people say. There is always someone better out there for you. How could there not be?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Also the consequenese of being caught cheating in a marrage are to high. Espescially if children and a house are involved.Anyway I think if the right guy with game came along, any girl in a relationship would cheat. No dout in my mind. When a girl gets horny they cant even think! I've experienced it way too often.
Girls with boyfriends are actually easer to bed (i read it somewere. Something about them being used to sex)
Smart words as always Alex. There's so much peer pressure and validation seeking on this site and so many guys feel they have to prove something by playing the field, shagging around and boasting about it.Warboss Alex said:
It's got to the point where many guys would rather follow orders from other guys than think for themselves and follow what they desire. That's not DJ or Alpha; that's just weakmindedness.
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Time again for some DJ Math!
Word Problem:
WOLF is 19 years old and has been with his 'girlfriend' for 2 years. How old did that make WOLF when he got together with this 'girlfriend'? If you answered 17 you are correct!
The problem isn't whether or not WOLF should "cheat", but rather,
WTF IS HE DOING WITH A GIRLFRIEND IN THE FIRST PLACE?!!!
Sweet Mother Mary! It's not cheating if you don't have a girlfriend to begin with. Why do you even entertain the idea at 19?
Just read this, please: Plate Theory. Be non-exclusive until you're at least 28 and you will save yourself a whole world of bad decisions and headache. Cheating is only cheating when you promise to behave one way and you don't. You're 19, of course you want to fukk other girls, whay would you voluntarily limit yourself like this? Don't make promises your d!ck can't keep. There's nothing wrong with wanting to bang as many hot women as humanly possible, but there is something wrong if you convince someone else (and yourself) that you don't. That's lying not cheating.
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SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
HPV/HERPES/CLAP/CRABS can be passed even if you use a condom.
One of those diseases is incurable, one of them will make her infertile. The other two are less of a big deal, the point is you can mess up her life, even if you are being really careful and she never finds out.
You take a risk when you sleep with someone, that's okay as long as both people know what risk they are taking (even if they don't really know) but when you lie, that is extremely extremely wrong.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
But I will practice everything I know. approach, flirt, get numbers, maybe even kiss. But leave it at that. I'll tell them I just want to be friends. So hopefully I'll have heaps of female friends. And i will also have heaps of options. If I find someone better I will tell my gf and leave her.
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I do fail to see why you're with her in the first place.wolf116 said:
Keep searching for reasoning and excuses, you may get lucky and pull the wool over your own eyes eventually.
I'll put $20 on you spazzing out if you ever saw a guy ramming his tongue down your girls throat. Be prepared to get as good as you give buddy
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The two reasons why you are staying with her is 1) you're not sure you can get someone better 2) you will be without regular sex (even if you are sleeping around you still don't get as much sex as a regular gf, some here do but most don't).
You're both 19 and young. Why don't you just talk to her? She might feel the same and want to play around, she might let you do that just to keep you, you might see just how hurt she would be if you actually did it and realise what a mistake it was, you might see that hurt and realise you don't feel that much at all.
Taking the risk and cheating is the easy option for you because YOU aren't risking anything really. She's the one who is going to be effected MOST, you will just move on, you might feel bad for a week or two but she will take years to get over that.
Don't be an ******* and don't listen to people here who say it's OK, they're generally the people who have this opinion that it's natural for everyone to screw over everyone because YOU are the only one that matters as she would probably do it to you. Do you really want to live in their world?
.... However at 19 you are probably best to break-up because chances are you WON'T be with this person in 5 years time and you will regret being in a relationship during your late teens/early twenties. This is the time to **** around, have non-exclusive relationships that last a few weeks NOT to get serious. It's also very dangerous falling for the first person you are serious with because you don't REALLY know what you want yet in life or in a partner.
But I say Cheating is NEVER justified.
You do not love her... You are just emotionally and physically attached to her because you've been with her and only her for such a long period of time. Sex creates attachment...wolf116 said:
I doubt you can pull off cheating on her and her not knowing something is up. I bet she can read you like a book by now...
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what the hell is this? some hippie site? u guys talk about free sex like ur straight from the 60's. u can have a good gf at any age, only inmature fvcks r concerned more bout playing around than other peoples feelings. i have friends now who r in nice commited relationships and 17 yrs old. there is no age where u just screw around and explore and then when u get old and no one wants u, then u look for a LTR. that is just a load of stanky Bullsh!t.
its not all about sex, there's other stuff involved here
we as humans have evolved passed having to screw every girl that comes by to sustain or species.
so if u guys really care about just getting sex so much, why dont u save urselves alot of rejection and hurt and jus go buy a prostitute. or go wack off to porn. u'll get sex easier that way.
sex does not make u a DJ or a Man. real men r mature enough to look for things in a woman other than just the next sexy a$$. THey have real goals other than just relieving their sexual desire 24/7
u guys r dogs
You have no idea how beautifully timed that was, and to the exact person that needed to hear it. Unfortunately, that's his entire focus, which seems a bit strange given he's been married for 10 years. Maybe he's lamenting and regretting; who knows......Raikojo17 said:
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.