Is cheating ok

[Babnik]

I now think I have been pulled into a community of really slutty people...both men and women who will never get married and a LOT of them are screwing each other but are not happy.

 

[ElChoclo]

Wolfie, here are some comments;

1 You probably don't believe in Karma, this is an American thing, they probably have more Buddhists there than we do. Just remember I think Pol Pot died peacefully from a heart attack. Stalin also died from natural causes. Two of the biggest murderers in history. Where was the payback? They got reborn as an animal?

2 Plenty of guys without experience who marry their first GF get restless later and then they have a nice mid life crisis marriage bust up. So inexperience is not bliss.

3 Cheating is for sex what murder is for serial killers. Once you start, you probably keep going.

Like Azanon said, you can probably love any number of women at the same time, however, if you try it, I would suggest, at your age, that you may need to get rid of your current GF after a while. Choose a time when she is able to handle it.

 

[wolf116]

I now think I have been pulled into a community of really slutty people...both men and women who will never get married and a LOT of them are screwing each other but are not happy.

what makes you think slutty is bad? You've been told? Haveing lots of sex with different partners is natural and fun.

If your unhappy it's not because you haven't married

 

[wolf116]

I like your comments ElChoclo. But i've heard of heaps of people that have cheated alot early on in a marrage/relationship then stoped. Like you say. If I don't cheat I will probibly grow restless and leave. I dont whant this to happen. I could see myself staying with this girl forever.

I'm not looking for another lover just another screw. But if I found someone better it would be stupid to let it go. I dont think I'd be bothed juggling two lovers tho. I'd just tell her when she was ready.

Whatever people say. There is always someone better out there for you. How could there not be?

 

[Last Man Standing]

The ONLY time a man is cheating is if he betrays his wife!!!! Otherwise you are merely her temporary pimp and she your temporary hor!!!!! You are just the next pimp in line!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[wolf116]

Agreed. That sounds good to me Also the consequenese of being caught cheating in a marrage are to high. Espescially if children and a house are involved.

Anyway I think if the right guy with game came along, any girl in a relationship would cheat. No dout in my mind. When a girl gets horny they cant even think! I've experienced it way too often.
Girls with boyfriends are actually easer to bed (i read it somewere. Something about them being used to sex)

 

[Jariel]

why do you NEED to like for women?

if this sh!thole of a website is screwing with your morals and making you think you SHOULD be a 'DJ/alpha male' whatever and that means you HAVE to sleep around then think again... if you're happy with your girl and are just feeling that you have to sleep around to gain status and respect then this is WRONGER THAN WRONG.

Smart words as always Alex. There's so much peer pressure and validation seeking on this site and so many guys feel they have to prove something by playing the field, shagging around and boasting about it.

It's got to the point where many guys would rather follow orders from other guys than think for themselves and follow what they desire. That's not DJ or Alpha; that's just weakmindedness.

 

[Vulpine]

Discussed at length:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=107422

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Stupid threads like this one are precisely why I abstain from responding to Noob members with a post count of 18 who only joined a month ago, but for sake of argument I'll bite this time.

Time again for some DJ Math!

Word Problem:
WOLF is 19 years old and has been with his 'girlfriend' for 2 years. How old did that make WOLF when he got together with this 'girlfriend'? If you answered 17 you are correct!

The problem isn't whether or not WOLF should "cheat", but rather,
WTF IS HE DOING WITH A GIRLFRIEND IN THE FIRST PLACE?!!!

Sweet Mother Mary! It's not cheating if you don't have a girlfriend to begin with. Why do you even entertain the idea at 19?

Just read this, please: Plate Theory. Be non-exclusive until you're at least 28 and you will save yourself a whole world of bad decisions and headache. Cheating is only cheating when you promise to behave one way and you don't. You're 19, of course you want to fukk other girls, whay would you voluntarily limit yourself like this? Don't make promises your d!ck can't keep. There's nothing wrong with wanting to bang as many hot women as humanly possible, but there is something wrong if you convince someone else (and yourself) that you don't. That's lying not cheating.

 

[superchristx]

VENERIAL DISEASE
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
HPV/HERPES/CLAP/CRABS can be passed even if you use a condom.

One of those diseases is incurable, one of them will make her infertile. The other two are less of a big deal, the point is you can mess up her life, even if you are being really careful and she never finds out.

You take a risk when you sleep with someone, that's okay as long as both people know what risk they are taking (even if they don't really know) but when you lie, that is extremely extremely wrong.

 

[wolf116]

VENERIAL DISEASE
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
HPV/HERPES/CLAP/CRABS can be passed even if you use a condom.

One of those diseases is incurable, one of them will make her infertile. The other two are less of a big deal, the point is you can mess up her life, even if you are being really careful and she never finds out.

You take a risk when you sleep with someone, that's okay as long as both people know what risk they are taking (even if they don't really know) but when you lie, that is extremely extremely wrong.

ok you just really scared me

 

[wolf116]

ok thanks everyone. I've made up my mind. I can't leave my girl and I don't want to give her a disease.
But I will practice everything I know. approach, flirt, get numbers, maybe even kiss. But leave it at that. I'll tell them I just want to be friends. So hopefully I'll have heaps of female friends. And i will also have heaps of options. If I find someone better I will tell my gf and leave her.

 

[white cloud 8]

I wouldn't ever do that to another person. Just think about it, you are really going to hurt that other person (or even possibly destroy the other person emotionally). It is not right. You would *NOT* like it if it ever happened to you.

 

[Freddy1]

VENERIAL DISEASE
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
HPV/HERPES/CLAP/CRABS can be passed even if you use a condom.

One of those diseases is incurable, one of them will make her infertile. The other two are less of a big deal, the point is you can mess up her life, even if you are being really careful and she never finds out.

You take a risk when you sleep with someone, that's okay as long as both people know what risk they are taking (even if they don't really know) but when you lie, that is extremely extremely wrong.

Thank you

 

[KillaCam]

ok thanks everyone. I've made up my mind. I can't leave my girl and I don't want to give her a disease.
But I will practice everything I know. approach, flirt, get numbers, maybe even kiss. But leave it at that. I'll tell them I just want to be friends. So hopefully I'll have heaps of female friends. And i will also have heaps of options. If I find someone better I will tell my gf and leave her.

I do fail to see why you're with her in the first place.

Keep searching for reasoning and excuses, you may get lucky and pull the wool over your own eyes eventually.

I'll put $20 on you spazzing out if you ever saw a guy ramming his tongue down your girls throat. Be prepared to get as good as you give buddy

 

[d9930380]

Even if you are caught approaching or just kissing. She will assume you have screwed other girls (she would be stupid not to), therefore the hurt you will have caused her will be just as bad. As someone said it causes bitterness and serious trust issues, why do you think so many girls are going lesbo?

The two reasons why you are staying with her is 1) you're not sure you can get someone better 2) you will be without regular sex (even if you are sleeping around you still don't get as much sex as a regular gf, some here do but most don't).

You're both 19 and young. Why don't you just talk to her? She might feel the same and want to play around, she might let you do that just to keep you, you might see just how hurt she would be if you actually did it and realise what a mistake it was, you might see that hurt and realise you don't feel that much at all.

Taking the risk and cheating is the easy option for you because YOU aren't risking anything really. She's the one who is going to be effected MOST, you will just move on, you might feel bad for a week or two but she will take years to get over that.

Don't be an ******* and don't listen to people here who say it's OK, they're generally the people who have this opinion that it's natural for everyone to screw over everyone because YOU are the only one that matters as she would probably do it to you. Do you really want to live in their world?

.... However at 19 you are probably best to break-up because chances are you WON'T be with this person in 5 years time and you will regret being in a relationship during your late teens/early twenties. This is the time to **** around, have non-exclusive relationships that last a few weeks NOT to get serious. It's also very dangerous falling for the first person you are serious with because you don't REALLY know what you want yet in life or in a partner.

But I say Cheating is NEVER justified.

 

[Scorched]

So is cheating wrong? i mean if she never finds out we will both be happy. If she does find out it's probibly over, but im thinking im willing to take that risk even tho i love her, i could live without her and she could live without me.

You do not love her... You are just emotionally and physically attached to her because you've been with her and only her for such a long period of time. Sex creates attachment...

I doubt you can pull off cheating on her and her not knowing something is up. I bet she can read you like a book by now...

 

[Raikojo17]

Stupid threads like this one are precisely why I abstain from responding to Noob members with a post count of 18 who only joined a month ago, but for sake of argument I'll bite this time.

Time again for some DJ Math!

Word Problem:
WOLF is 19 years old and has been with his 'girlfriend' for 2 years. How old did that make WOLF when he got together with this 'girlfriend'? If you answered 17 you are correct!

The problem isn't whether or not WOLF should "cheat", but rather,
WTF IS HE DOING WITH A GIRLFRIEND IN THE FIRST PLACE?!!!

Sweet Mother Mary! It's not cheating if you don't have a girlfriend to begin with. Why do you even entertain the idea at 19?

Just read this, please: Plate Theory. Be non-exclusive until you're at least 28 and you will save yourself a whole world of bad decisions and headache. Cheating is only cheating when you promise to behave one way and you don't. You're 19, of course you want to fukk other girls, whay would you voluntarily limit yourself like this? Don't make promises your d!ck can't keep. There's nothing wrong with wanting to bang as many hot women as humanly possible, but there is something wrong if you convince someone else (and yourself) that you don't. That's lying not cheating.

what the hell is this? some hippie site? u guys talk about free sex like ur straight from the 60's. u can have a good gf at any age, only inmature fvcks r concerned more bout playing around than other peoples feelings. i have friends now who r in nice commited relationships and 17 yrs old. there is no age where u just screw around and explore and then when u get old and no one wants u, then u look for a LTR. that is just a load of stanky Bullsh!t.

its not all about sex, there's other stuff involved here
we as humans have evolved passed having to screw every girl that comes by to sustain or species.

so if u guys really care about just getting sex so much, why dont u save urselves alot of rejection and hurt and jus go buy a prostitute. or go wack off to porn. u'll get sex easier that way.

sex does not make u a DJ or a Man. real men r mature enough to look for things in a woman other than just the next sexy a$$. THey have real goals other than just relieving their sexual desire 24/7
u guys r dogs

 

[azanon]

what the hell is this? some hippie site? u guys talk about free sex like ur straight from the 60's. u can have a good gf at any age, only inmature fvcks r concerned more bout playing around than other peoples feelings. i have friends now who r in nice commited relationships and 17 yrs old. there is no age where u just screw around and explore and then when u get old and no one wants u, then u look for a LTR. that is just a load of stanky Bullsh!t.

its not all about sex, there's other stuff involved here
we as humans have evolved passed having to screw every girl that comes by to sustain or species.

so if u guys really care about just getting sex so much, why dont u save urselves alot of rejection and hurt and jus go buy a prostitute. or go wack off to porn. u'll get sex easier that way.

sex does not make u a DJ or a Man. real men r mature enough to look for things in a woman other than just the next sexy a$$. THey have real goals other than just relieving their sexual desire 24/7
u guys r dogs

You have no idea how beautifully timed that was, and to the exact person that needed to hear it. Unfortunately, that's his entire focus, which seems a bit strange given he's been married for 10 years. Maybe he's lamenting and regretting; who knows......

 

[Last Man Standing]

She is already horing so there is nothing stopping her from horing with other dudes - women do this all the time - dudes don't find out until she says "I need space". Only if you are courting for marriage are you then obligated to be faithful -- otherwise treat the hors like the hors that they are and and continue to be their pimp!!!