Is cheating no longer considered a red flag?

[Plinco]

Isn't cheating a red flag anymore?

Many of my friends' relationships, we're all in our 20s and 30s, have involved women with a history of cheating. 80% of the women cheated, and 50% of them were forgiven in their LTR. The cheating happened between the ages of 18 and 22, when they were "in the rolleroaster phase". These women then had children, started families, and yet they always gave the impression of maintaining a perfect "facade" while hiding something underneath.

In today's society, is commitment after cheating seen as even more "desirable" than someone who is committed to you from the beginning and maintains respect? (There is a name for this psychological bias.)
Where have the real men gone? In these cases, if you're that man, how can you be sure she'll never do it again? How can you trust her with the role of mother to your children, and be at peace... you can't. You must be worthless if you forgive something like that when she's young, or even when you have something in common (I understand it will be more difficult).

What's the situation like where you live?

This is straight forward, these guys staying with these women lack self-respect and a self-esteem. These women don't respect these men, especially since they got away with the cheating, and these men should not trust them either. Right there there's no good foundation for such a relationship, trust and respect. A man with self-esteem and respect knows that he's better off single than being co-dependent.

Average males always had to accept it. That's how this world works.

If most people are dysfunctional, then being dysfunctional would be considered average.

Women however love push-pull, love a good fight, love to be ordered around or treated badly by bad boys (or treated badly because why not?). Hell, I have personally experienced it how easily is to go to bed with other guys woman. They sense this "he is about himself, about career, he is a sure of himself type". They love it. Once you understand that female has this animalistic spirit which is a bit different from yours, but complementing yours above social norms of "normies", you go past border of rationality and towards true knowledge about human character, which is partially as close to animals instinct as they can be. Bad boys are closer to such insticts. Just because a female seems to be faithful does not mean she always was. Objective truth remains almost always undisclosed and its brutal.

Both men and woman are turned on by how "wrong" the sexual situation is (dopamine). That's the exciting part. I remember when I was 30 and dating an 18 year old girl who lived with her grandfather. I would sneak into the house by getting in her bedroom window and we'd have sex not too far away from where her grandfather was sleeping. We had to be quiet but it was the best sex we had because it was "wrong."

If you think that bossy woman ordering her boyfriend around would be bossy with any guy, you are wrong. All these girls like to bend over like cats and allow do crazy things to them if the right man is ready to lead them in bed or in life - and no marriage, no "conservative upbringing", no "people are going to gossip" will stop woman from spreading her legs, if THE man will want her and take her for himself. Her c.uck-boy can sit nicely and watch how it is done if he really wants to be around her all the time. If someone thinks that female character has changed in 60 years or something, he does not understood what has truly happened.

Essentially women are attracted to men who are selfish and effective. When I say selfish, that's not to say that such a man wouldn't run into a burning building to save a cat, but over the long run he is still selfish and effective.

Soy-boyz happened. Weak-boyz happened. Cry-boyz happened. Being man is partially about being territorial animal and dominance - not about "peaceful, tame co-existance". Men got tamed quickly in the past 100 years and females CRAVE what was lost in the process - your violent nature, your disregard for danger your grand-grandfather probably had to show here and there to get a shot at your grand-grandmother. Struggle for a girl (fighting for a girl, etc.). Women are taught just as we are that being civilised is being good - but we are not robots.

Being a man is about using your head. Think about the difference between being lashing out violently versus using force intelligently.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Isn't cheating a red flag anymore?

Many of my friends' relationships, we're all in our 20s and 30s, have involved women with a history of cheating. 80% of the women cheated, and 50% of them were forgiven in their LTR. The cheating happened between the ages of 18 and 22, when they were "in the rolleroaster phase". These women then had children, started families, and yet they always gave the impression of maintaining a perfect "facade" while hiding something underneath.

In today's society, is commitment after cheating seen as even more "desirable" than someone who is committed to you from the beginning and maintains respect? (There is a name for this psychological bias.)
Where have the real men gone? In these cases, if you're that man, how can you be sure she'll never do it again? How can you trust her with the role of mother to your children, and be at peace... you can't. You must be worthless if you forgive something like that when she's young, or even when you have something in common (I understand it will be more difficult).

What's the situation like where you live?

There’s no “cheating” on “bf’s” and “gf’s”. Only in marriage is cheating possible.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Men got tamed quickly in the past 100 years

This is also when “dating” and “relationships” came to be. Ironic, eh?