Right now, I am seeing this girl and I am making it so that I am not deperate or needy. But it seems like she never calls me, and I'm always the one calling her which makes me feel like I am desperate. I have decided to not call her until she calls me, but its been like 3 weeks now. I know she is interested in me because we have hooked up numerous times, and she never flakes whenever I do call her to do something. I guess my question is, would a girl lose interest if I become too much of a challenge?
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Is being too much of a challenge a bad thing?
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themanwithnoname
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uh, have you done anything sexual with this girl, if you haven't trying to be a "challenge" ain't going to do any magic.
lil ice 537
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if u always call her it does show that you are needy and deperate.if she never call you and you two have hook up a couple of times it seems to me that she has lost interest in you.so forget her and move on.
lil ice 537
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if u always call her it does show that you are needy and deperate.if she never call you and you two have hook up a couple of times it seems to me that she has lost interest in you.so forget her and move on.
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very nice double post... but i got it the first time! :crackup:
Anyways! lol... you dun have to forget her buddy.... its not over yet, its obvious to us that she isnt interested in you enough... i suggest you bond more of a connection with her (looking into her eyes, kino, C&F) before you start ignoring her.... Heck, if she hasn't called you for 3 weeks, it probably means she forgot about you, cuz you didnt make a strong enough impression on her.
Try going out on a memorable date... and then not calling her, ill bet shell call you back after a couple of days and say....
"Why didn't you call me, i was worried..."
[If she is a shy girl, ignoring her wont really work as well]
Anyways! lol... you dun have to forget her buddy.... its not over yet, its obvious to us that she isnt interested in you enough... i suggest you bond more of a connection with her (looking into her eyes, kino, C&F) before you start ignoring her.... Heck, if she hasn't called you for 3 weeks, it probably means she forgot about you, cuz you didnt make a strong enough impression on her.
Try going out on a memorable date... and then not calling her, ill bet shell call you back after a couple of days and say....
"Why didn't you call me, i was worried..."
[If she is a shy girl, ignoring her wont really work as well]
Francisco d'Anconia
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I agree.Originally posted by Wiesman44
she's not interested that much. If its been 3 weeks, she obviously could care less if she hung out w/ you again.
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
Okay you say you know she's interested in you because she's has hooked up with you before. Tell me, if you had hooked up with a female friend a couple of times cause you had nothing else going on even though there were better prospects on the horizon.
Yes, yes you would. Same thing with her. She wants to hook up, doesn't want to hook up with a complete stranger, she knows and who you are, figures your not a male slut. Therefore, you fall in her qualifications for temporary hookup.
Why you think she's into is beyond me but whatever. Nowadays male and female friends hook up alot for any reason, quit reading so much into it and move on.
Okay you say you know she's interested in you because she's has hooked up with you before. Tell me, if you had hooked up with a female friend a couple of times cause you had nothing else going on even though there were better prospects on the horizon.
Yes, yes you would. Same thing with her. She wants to hook up, doesn't want to hook up with a complete stranger, she knows and who you are, figures your not a male slut. Therefore, you fall in her qualifications for temporary hookup.
Why you think she's into is beyond me but whatever. Nowadays male and female friends hook up alot for any reason, quit reading so much into it and move on.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Re: hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
Agreed. Don't think that all girls who hook up with you want something more. Some genuinely don't, although some do. It's a toss up, and it depends on the individual girl. Usually I've found that they'd want to get into something more. That's the majority. But sometimes, you'll run into the girl who's just looking for a good time, and that's it. Non-committal stuff. Just keep that in mind, and don't get too caught up in social stereotypes, especially the ones that say all girls are nice, innocent creatures who are always looking to tie you down.Originally posted by suave4sure
Okay you say you know she's interested in you because she's has hooked up with you before. Tell me, if you had hooked up with a female friend a couple of times cause you had nothing else going on even though there were better prospects on the horizon.
Yes, yes you would. Same thing with her. She wants to hook up, doesn't want to hook up with a complete stranger, she knows and who you are, figures your not a male slut. Therefore, you fall in her qualifications for temporary hookup.
Why you think she's into is beyond me but whatever. Nowadays male and female friends hook up alot for any reason, quit reading so much into it and move on.