Right now, I am seeing this girl and I am making it so that I am not deperate or needy. But it seems like she never calls me, and I'm always the one calling her which makes me feel like I am desperate. I have decided to not call her until she calls me, but its been like 3 weeks now. I know she is interested in me because we have hooked up numerous times, and she never flakes whenever I do call her to do something. I guess my question is, would a girl lose interest if I become too much of a challenge?
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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
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Is being too much of a challenge a bad thing?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
uh, have you done anything sexual with this girl, if you haven't trying to be a "challenge" ain't going to do any magic.
lil ice 537
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if u always call her it does show that you are needy and deperate.if she never call you and you two have hook up a couple of times it seems to me that she has lost interest in you.so forget her and move on.
lil ice 537
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if u always call her it does show that you are needy and deperate.if she never call you and you two have hook up a couple of times it seems to me that she has lost interest in you.so forget her and move on.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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very nice double post... but i got it the first time! :crackup:
Anyways! lol... you dun have to forget her buddy.... its not over yet, its obvious to us that she isnt interested in you enough... i suggest you bond more of a connection with her (looking into her eyes, kino, C&F) before you start ignoring her.... Heck, if she hasn't called you for 3 weeks, it probably means she forgot about you, cuz you didnt make a strong enough impression on her.
Try going out on a memorable date... and then not calling her, ill bet shell call you back after a couple of days and say....
"Why didn't you call me, i was worried..."
[If she is a shy girl, ignoring her wont really work as well]
Anyways! lol... you dun have to forget her buddy.... its not over yet, its obvious to us that she isnt interested in you enough... i suggest you bond more of a connection with her (looking into her eyes, kino, C&F) before you start ignoring her.... Heck, if she hasn't called you for 3 weeks, it probably means she forgot about you, cuz you didnt make a strong enough impression on her.
Try going out on a memorable date... and then not calling her, ill bet shell call you back after a couple of days and say....
"Why didn't you call me, i was worried..."
[If she is a shy girl, ignoring her wont really work as well]
Francisco d'Anconia
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I agree.Originally posted by Wiesman44
she's not interested that much. If its been 3 weeks, she obviously could care less if she hung out w/ you again.
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
Okay you say you know she's interested in you because she's has hooked up with you before. Tell me, if you had hooked up with a female friend a couple of times cause you had nothing else going on even though there were better prospects on the horizon.
Yes, yes you would. Same thing with her. She wants to hook up, doesn't want to hook up with a complete stranger, she knows and who you are, figures your not a male slut. Therefore, you fall in her qualifications for temporary hookup.
Why you think she's into is beyond me but whatever. Nowadays male and female friends hook up alot for any reason, quit reading so much into it and move on.
Okay you say you know she's interested in you because she's has hooked up with you before. Tell me, if you had hooked up with a female friend a couple of times cause you had nothing else going on even though there were better prospects on the horizon.
Yes, yes you would. Same thing with her. She wants to hook up, doesn't want to hook up with a complete stranger, she knows and who you are, figures your not a male slut. Therefore, you fall in her qualifications for temporary hookup.
Why you think she's into is beyond me but whatever. Nowadays male and female friends hook up alot for any reason, quit reading so much into it and move on.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Re: hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
Agreed. Don't think that all girls who hook up with you want something more. Some genuinely don't, although some do. It's a toss up, and it depends on the individual girl. Usually I've found that they'd want to get into something more. That's the majority. But sometimes, you'll run into the girl who's just looking for a good time, and that's it. Non-committal stuff. Just keep that in mind, and don't get too caught up in social stereotypes, especially the ones that say all girls are nice, innocent creatures who are always looking to tie you down.Originally posted by suave4sure
Okay you say you know she's interested in you because she's has hooked up with you before. Tell me, if you had hooked up with a female friend a couple of times cause you had nothing else going on even though there were better prospects on the horizon.
Yes, yes you would. Same thing with her. She wants to hook up, doesn't want to hook up with a complete stranger, she knows and who you are, figures your not a male slut. Therefore, you fall in her qualifications for temporary hookup.
Why you think she's into is beyond me but whatever. Nowadays male and female friends hook up alot for any reason, quit reading so much into it and move on.