"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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is being the "safety net" for a girl ever ok?

dudewut

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If you have a feeling (figment of your insecurities or not) that the girl you are with is only with you because the other guy isnt

is that ever alright? or should you have higher standards and walk?

just something I was pondering about
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lol, good question. If you think about it though, almost everybody compromises. I'm sure any girl would take the rich, tall, handsome, famous guy if she had a shot at him. So I don't think being a second choice is necessarily all that bad. Just make the most of your opportunity, and she may end up glad she didn't get the other guy.
 

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Well...I am sure every girl have been rejected at one point of their lives, so technically any girl will be with any guy because another guy is not there with her
 

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zekko said:
Lol, good question. If you think about it though, almost everybody compromises. I'm sure any girl would take the rich, tall, handsome, famous guy if she had a shot at him. So I don't think being a second choice is necessarily all that bad. Just make the most of your opportunity, and she may end up glad she didn't get the other guy.
True that, but say, the guy is more accessible? Meaning they used to date, he didnt want her now she is with you. Possibly only to make him jealous or something?
 

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Its fine if your getting some benefit out of it, sex for instance, and you dont expect anything more in terms of attatchment/exclusivity then Id go for it, but do not invest anythign in a 'relationship' with a woman in this situation
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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dudewut said:
is that ever alright? or should you have higher standards and walk?
If a girl ever lets you know that you're her second choice that's what you'll always be. She'll either end up leaving you later or worse you'll marry her and she'll make your life a living hell. Enjoy :)
 

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dudewut said:
True that, but say, the guy is more accessible? Meaning they used to date, he didnt want her now she is with you. Possibly only to make him jealous or something?
If she is honestly just using you to make him jealous and doesn't give two craps about you, then go with what betheman said. But if she likes you and is trying to get over him, I don't see the harm.

As always though, guard your heart. But that should be true in any situation. That doesn't mean never care for anybody. Just always keep it in the back of your mind that almost all relationships are temporary, nearly all of them will come to an end at some point. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 10 years, but I still wake up everyday knowing that it could end at any time. Being okay with that helps you keep the frame.
 
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