"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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is being the "safety net" for a girl ever ok?

dudewut

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If you have a feeling (figment of your insecurities or not) that the girl you are with is only with you because the other guy isnt

is that ever alright? or should you have higher standards and walk?

just something I was pondering about
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Lol, good question. If you think about it though, almost everybody compromises. I'm sure any girl would take the rich, tall, handsome, famous guy if she had a shot at him. So I don't think being a second choice is necessarily all that bad. Just make the most of your opportunity, and she may end up glad she didn't get the other guy.
 

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Well...I am sure every girl have been rejected at one point of their lives, so technically any girl will be with any guy because another guy is not there with her
 

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zekko said:
Lol, good question. If you think about it though, almost everybody compromises. I'm sure any girl would take the rich, tall, handsome, famous guy if she had a shot at him. So I don't think being a second choice is necessarily all that bad. Just make the most of your opportunity, and she may end up glad she didn't get the other guy.
True that, but say, the guy is more accessible? Meaning they used to date, he didnt want her now she is with you. Possibly only to make him jealous or something?
 

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Its fine if your getting some benefit out of it, sex for instance, and you dont expect anything more in terms of attatchment/exclusivity then Id go for it, but do not invest anythign in a 'relationship' with a woman in this situation
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dudewut said:
is that ever alright? or should you have higher standards and walk?
If a girl ever lets you know that you're her second choice that's what you'll always be. She'll either end up leaving you later or worse you'll marry her and she'll make your life a living hell. Enjoy :)
 

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dudewut said:
True that, but say, the guy is more accessible? Meaning they used to date, he didnt want her now she is with you. Possibly only to make him jealous or something?
If she is honestly just using you to make him jealous and doesn't give two craps about you, then go with what betheman said. But if she likes you and is trying to get over him, I don't see the harm.

As always though, guard your heart. But that should be true in any situation. That doesn't mean never care for anybody. Just always keep it in the back of your mind that almost all relationships are temporary, nearly all of them will come to an end at some point. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 10 years, but I still wake up everyday knowing that it could end at any time. Being okay with that helps you keep the frame.
 
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