Jean Valjean
Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 2, 2009
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Hey brother DJs
After a long separation I'm newly single (divorced). Problem is that I'm in my 40's look 30 though. The club scene looks rough to me. Wondering what I got myself into. Previously had the undying loyalty of a steady partner.
Now it seems that girls I develop feelings for will let me know that they hit a club on the weekend - and if pressed also admit they danced and talked to some guy, (prob swapped #s) etc.
This hurts especially when you've develped feeings for a pretty woman even though not a "girl friend'. In my young stud days before I married I just cared about getting laid and not about relationships so I never got hurt. The one girl I married stayed with me all the years - never had to worry.
How do you play this when you're in your 40's I have read the DJ bible to know that I should just shrug it off and act like I don't care if a girl I'm dating tells me she hit a meet market club with some friends and danced with some guys.
If the girl is very pretty I feel very vulnerable like every joe is going to hit on them and I start getting jealous That some guy will be fccking them way before I do if I even do ...
Acting or getting possessive is the wrong thing to do for a DJ. right? How do you deal with the hurt of other guys moving on your turf when you are not around. If you like a particular girl is it worth asking her to be exclusive or are you shooting yourself in the heart when she dumps you and you have no backup chick.
After a long separation I'm newly single (divorced). Problem is that I'm in my 40's look 30 though. The club scene looks rough to me. Wondering what I got myself into. Previously had the undying loyalty of a steady partner.
Now it seems that girls I develop feelings for will let me know that they hit a club on the weekend - and if pressed also admit they danced and talked to some guy, (prob swapped #s) etc.
This hurts especially when you've develped feeings for a pretty woman even though not a "girl friend'. In my young stud days before I married I just cared about getting laid and not about relationships so I never got hurt. The one girl I married stayed with me all the years - never had to worry.
How do you play this when you're in your 40's I have read the DJ bible to know that I should just shrug it off and act like I don't care if a girl I'm dating tells me she hit a meet market club with some friends and danced with some guys.
If the girl is very pretty I feel very vulnerable like every joe is going to hit on them and I start getting jealous That some guy will be fccking them way before I do if I even do ...
Acting or getting possessive is the wrong thing to do for a DJ. right? How do you deal with the hurt of other guys moving on your turf when you are not around. If you like a particular girl is it worth asking her to be exclusive or are you shooting yourself in the heart when she dumps you and you have no backup chick.