Is being a bad friend good for attraction?

[CollegeMan22]

I am in college, and I approach cute girls in my classes. I get their numbers easily. I then ask them out. Some go, but some pull some weasel excuse (as we have all experienced).

But then sometimes the weasels come back to me. They ask me for homework help. Should I ignore them if I want to get them out? Maybe just respond with a “didn’t see your message” the next day. Or should I actually help them?

 

[SW15]

I am in college, and I approach cute girls in my classes. I get their numbers easily. I then ask them out. Some go, but some pull some weasel excuse (as we have all experienced).

But then sometimes the weasels come back to me. They ask me for homework help. Should I ignore them if I want to get them out? Maybe just respond with a “didn’t see your message” the next day. Or should I actually help them?

No excuses are acceptable. They need to go on dates with you.

Frame is everything. Iron Rule of Tomassi #1.

 

[Robert28]

give them a weasel excuse. Or just call them out “you’re contacting me when you want something from me? Why?”. Most definitely do not help them or do any favors for them, no matter what it is.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Mess with them. Give them half-answers to their homework that doesn't really help them and ignore. Tease them if they come back for more. They should realize a good twerk will get their blood flowing to their brains.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Sounds like they're using you for homework honestly.. If you ask a girl out and she doesnt respond.. in college.. and yet still asks you about helping her with homework, not a good sign. I wouldn't talk to girls like that man-- unless ofc you want to do the nice thing and still help them.. which would be commendable but is def "nice guy" behavior

 

[Stanley]

Don't get used

 

[parabellum]

Sorry. I did ask for your number because I thought you were interesting and wanted to know you better, but I really suck at this class lol, maybe ask someone else. (or insert a name of someone it would make no sense to ask)

I think this or something similar is better than both ghosting or actually helping them, because they will see you don’t give a f and are comfortable letting yourself down a bit, both which are attractive.

If they become interested suddenly just keep the same playfulness.