Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
He cant help it, too blazed.KarmaSutra said:Perhaps you should have explained yourself more thoroughly, turd.
Don't be a lazy c0ck and use abbreviations when you can easily type it out, ie- idc.
Fvcking women speak in abbreviations when they're texting their girlfriends.
Kwim?
Correct. I'm neither Dubfire nor Sharam. I picked this SoSuave name eons before getting into DJing when I was just an enthusiastic club kib. It was listening to their 1998 BBC Radio One Essential Mix a week before going to their concert six years ago which introduced me to progressive house and changed the course of my life. Plus, it's just a really cool name. I now regret choosing the name for a couple of reasons but whatever, I have to stick with it (except I may start posting my mixes under a new name). Coincidentally, I'm trying to figure out a DJ nickname for my real life persona and was just thinking about it moments ago.fuzzx said:IDeep Dish I believe is a DJ... or at least he uses the name of a local DJ... might not be the same person though.
I totally agree with you that there's no fun not having any controls. Presentation is important and you can't do nearly as much with just a computer keyboard and mouse. Try playing two or three tracks at once and mixing by EQ while looping tracks—you just can't do it all simultaneously. Being a human Winamp or iTunes is just being a glorified jukebox and misses out on the ethos and art of DJing—which, contrary to conventional wisdom of non-DJs, does absolutely exist—but there is a workaround.Fuzzx:
I see alot of people use their laptops and software for that type of thing though.... but I like to have the controls right in front of me and when it comes to DJing, half the battle is about presentation. A DJ could in theory (many do) just sit infront of an audience and push play on winamp but where's the entertainment in that?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DJing isn't that expensive for beginners these days. I'm guessing you want to just be a run of the mill mix DJ, so you can get away with some low/mid range gear to see if DJing is for you. If you want to be a turntablist/battle DJ it's going to be pretty expensive right from the start.eatgel said:Guys I want to be a dj and travel around the world and meets lot of hot girls and have friends all over the world! jk I just want to dj since Im going to hawaii next year. Btw anybody know how the nightlife in hawaii is?
Eatgle, what're, u like 10 years old ?? Grow upeatgel said:KarmaSutra stfu! your awefully mean for a 35 year old. People fukk up even djs do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
^^ This is true for the most part. However I will say that most places I play at provide both Turntables and CDJ, so I usually end up mixing both. Maybe thats just the case here in Europe, mileage may vary in the States.DeepDish said:Vinyl has lost its relevance in todays' evolution of technology. I am either friends with or share a mutual friend with probably every DJ in Orlando's house/techno scene. Many have vinyl turntables in their homes, relics of the past, but I don't know a soul who plays out with turntables.